Please answer this, more targeted at married couples, 5 or more years together:?

Question

My daughter's father owes 4+ years in child support, how does that go, if you are overdue like that? Next, i DON"T speak to him because:1) he just got married,(i met the fiance')I do it for respect. 2)I called his home, she picked up the phone and cursed me out, I just called to inform him about his daughter, (I DO NOT have feelings for him, He is 10 years older than me, i'm 27),, which we went 2 court and he did not exercise his opportunity 2 get visitation, etc....I think the wife had something 2 do with that...This is his only child....He takes care of her kids, why would a man do that????? But his mother wants to meet our daughter(her first and only grandchild).........What do I do????PLEASE HELP!!!!

Answer 1

Say yes, and arrange for this woman to meet her grandchild.

Answer 2

The mother is the perfect way to the son. If you are ok with the grandmother being a part of your daughter's lives, then all the better. This will allow your daughter and opportunity to explore herself through her paternal heritage also. If you are wanting support from the father, you need to take him to court, there are so many laws in place currently protecting your right to child support, so utilize those to the best you can. You should be able to also get back child support included in your monthly payment.
In regards to the "other woman" you need not worry about her or their relationship, he has to pay the consequences not you and he has to own up to his responsibilities, not her! So do what you have to do....this is about your daughter, not about your ex or his wife!

Answer 3

Yeah when he have different woman in his life and of course he do what ever she want him to do and he follow her order... and seems that he didn't even care about his own daughter. and that what makes me mad.. I have 4 year daughter and 2 yearold son and baby 3rd due this week or next week. I love them more than anything if my wife and I got divorce I wouldn't want to be married again why??? because My wife is my wife forever and my kids too..

But how does his mother treat you and your daughter??? Does she really care about you and your daughter or just your daughter?? if just you and your daughter then wow.. if just not you just only your daughter... you should be letting her see her grand daughter becasue it true only child in her family...

Don't need to call him anymore and try to let him know about his daughter let him call you and then that would save all the messes...

My father has nothing to do with me since he left me 2 years old when he found out I was deaf and now Found out he died year ago in feb 2006 and he told my uncle that tell my son that I love him so much he done nothing wrong and I was not a good father and sorry that I wasn't there for him when he needed me themost. and It kills me not hear from him jst hear from somone else. wow.

You are a great mother and just look after your daughter and if the man's mother really care about that child and or not you.. then let her.. because she can go and tell him how could you do that to your own daugther/?? what kind a father are you..????? ya know...

Answer 4

Screw the bastard......call your District attorney or child support office and let them go after the back child support. He is in violation of a court order for not paying it and there are legal reprecussions. If he did not choose to see her during the court hearings , then (in my opinion) he does not want to see her. Do not call his house anymore since things are not going civally when you do, or if you do, refuse to speak to the new wife. She has nothing at all to do with your child and she should learn to understand this and let him deal with his family (i.e.: your daughter). Do let the child have a relationship with her grandmother. But make it on your own terms. Your child nor the grandmother can help what the father is doing. Maybe it's better that she not see her father at all since already she is being treated differently that his step-kids by the new wife. Might avoid alot of broken hearts if daughter is never put in that situation. Just my opinion. For what it's worth.

Answer 5

You can't force the man to care about the child and I am sure the new wife had a hand in this...but you can contact his mother and set up a meet with her so she can see her grandchild. As for child support you need to retain an attorney for that matter.

Answer 6

Contact his mother and meet somewhere . Nothing says you cant have contact with his mother for your daughters sake, no matter what he thinks or says. As a matter of fact that relationship is actually none of his business and youre doing nothing wrong or illegal. Men are capable of doing just about anything and majority of what they do makes no sense is probably really stupid. So for him to do this isnt beyond the capabilities of man and dont care who they hurt in the process. If he actsthe way the he does then dont contact him concerning your daughter as you two dont need him, but Grandma didnt do anything wrong either so stay in contact with her. Now you can sue him in court for arrearage or contact your child support collection agency or the court and advise them of where he is and theyll take it from there. Good luck

Answer 7

If the grandmother wants to be involved, your child has the right to that relationship (as long as its not any unhealthy one). As far as the father, I would just stop contacting him for any reason. If he wants to see his child, he'll contact you. I would try to collect on that child support too, contact an attorney. Good luck.

Answer 8

You need to take the late child support to either your county,or state.Get that taken care of and raise that child.Its apparent the loser has no interest in your baby

Answer 9

Let her meet the grandchild but ex hubby should not be around.

Answer 10

Leave him and his new life alone but allow his mom to see and get to know her grandchild. Don't offer him any information on your kid when he wants to know let him find you.