I am 17 weeks pregnant with baby no.2. My husband and I went out to a toughman contest a couple of weeks ago. He kept carrying on about one of the ring girls. How beautiful she was and so on. I dont think it would have bothered me if he would have paid some attention to me. I lost a lot of weight last year and got down smaller than my pre-baby #1 weight. Well I have gotten pregnant again and all the weight has come back and he is very negative about it. I feel horrible when we go places and he rubs in my face how he thinks all these stick woman are hot, while I am just sitting here big and pregnant. There was even one point when he tried to take the girls picture with his cell phone. Am I just being silly?? I dont know what I could do if anything. What would you say if you were in my shoes? Thanks!!
2007-04-03 09:57:25 · 28 answers · asked by Jenn C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I meant to say this before, when he tried to take the girls pic, i took his phone and he got extremely mad and wouldnt even talk to me for a while. :(
2007-04-03 10:02:52 · update #1
omg what a jerk! I tell him he shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself...that you are making him a family and excuse you for not having any time to look pretty!
2007-04-03 10:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are always going to be hot women around - that shouldn't mean you can't go out in public with your husband and hope there won't be. It's not wrong to be jealous; it's totally understandable.The thing is, it's hard to take because, as you say, he is 'very negative' about your shape. As if you could control that when you are pregnant! Even if you weren't pregnant, it's obnoxious as hell - and you actually demonstrated that with work, you lost weight and got down to smaller than your pre- baby#1 weight. Your husband is being a class a jackass and it probably doesn't have anything to do with your shape (although he is very consciously rubbing the criticism in...). He may be upset that you're having another baby so soon and even he doesn't realize how much. It's like all that anxiety is bubbling up to the surface and he's taking it out on you. Hang tough. You know you can get back to the weight you want because you've already succeeded at that. He's going through some kind of crisis - don't indulge him by sympathizing and wishing you could match bodies with those babes. Wait until the second baby has arrived and see if he continues with the childish behavior.
2007-04-03 17:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he deserves a slap and I'm a guy your carrying his child the worse thing he could do is point out another woman to you and make a compliment. This guy is just a moron or thats what it looks like maybe you should take him to a ladies night and start making wise cracks about the strippers and see how he feels. Really if he had any respect for you and being his wife and the mother to his children he would atleast have the brains to keep the crap to himself. I do not know about jealousy but if It was me I would be pissed. Dog House for atleast a week.
Congrats on #2 and may your baby be strong and healthy touched by the blessing of God and his angels Amen.
2007-04-03 17:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is good sometimes. Over jealous is bad. The biggest thing here is you have him and those girls dont. The more you react to his little boy games the more he will continue to do so. He has no room to complain after all its his fault youre pregnant. I think he gets some kind of pleasure making you jealous and youre doing exactly what he wants you to do. kind of hard not to, I understand, but once a guy doesnt get the reaction he wants from his girlfriend then he quits as its no longer fun. Or play his game, the next time get your camera and start taking pictures of the buff guys and tell him that you can do it too. Good luck
2007-04-03 17:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt feel very respected In that situation. Your husband should show you a little more respect than that. I felt weird too when my husband was commenting on other girls and making googly eyes in front of me. He would say that he was just kidding. But then he admits that he likes girls. I would tell him how i felt about that. Tell your husband how you feel about it he may say that its not big deal or you are going crazy or something but tell him its no joke. That you feel uncomfortable about it and you would like for him to tone it down. He shouldnt treat you in such ways you are pregnant and going to bring a life into this world. Its not wrong to be jealous you have every right to feel uncomfortable about this. Let him know that this really hurts you.
2007-04-03 17:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not wrong to be jealous. I know what you mean. I personally haven't gone through that, but my sister did. And i saw how it tore her up. I remember it got to one point where he told her just becuz he looks and flirts, there's only one woman who he'll go home with. And that was her. It calmed her down a lot. But I thought it was stupid. He mainly tried to tell her he can do what ever he wants, and she shouldn't say a thing b/c he was always with her. I got mad and I stepped up and told him off. He was wrong. when your with you woman you can't be doing stuff like that. Whne your alone it's a different story,. But as long as he's in your company tell him off. You have every right to be jealous. he should show u some respect and his wife and the woman carrying his child
2007-04-03 17:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Stephie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! your are not being silly. I think you are taking it WAY better than I ever would. Your husband is being an insensitve JERK and I think if he is this comfortable talking and behaving like that in front of you what does he do behind your back? Your are pregnant and have a reason to put on weight don't let his being a JERK cloud your self esteem. BTW stick girls are NOT HOT!!!!!! CURVY CHICKS are IT!!!
2007-04-03 17:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SILLY.... absolutely not!!!! You should be the only woman he looks at. Talking about another woman ever is unacceptable. Never allow him to make you feel bad about your self. Stay strong and let him no you will not put up with that behavior again. If he wants you he wants only you!
If you lost the weight once you will lose it again but do it for yourself not him.
2007-04-03 17:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Vapsjp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant is beautiful this is when a woman is at her best and if he can't understand that you will go back to your original weight then he is an idiot. Tell him that you are upset and love him and this behaviour makes you ill and if he doesn't stop, tell him things will change for the worse if he keeps acting like an idiot. Take care Heather
2007-04-03 17:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be looking at you and support you and... why he upset that you gain weight??/ well he knows that you are carring his baby??? You know I never upset about anything with my wife losing or gain weight. Becasue she beautiful to me and I enjoy her around me and I enjoy looking at my wife. and She really gaveme 3 beautiful kids well 3rd should be coming this week or next week by now.
You not jeaous you just want to hear him telling you I love you honey and I am glad you are with me and I am glad you in my life and I am looking forward to have 2nd baby coming our life. stuff like that and not
this Kept on about the ring girls and how beautiful they are and wish you like that stuff like that. that sad that he no love you for who you are and no matter what you look like but you know you have great personitly but he didn't see that in you...
That what made me mad about men do their women.... He even taking picture from his cell phone.. oh god if I did that my wife woul dbe pissed off and leave me and say why would you marry me if you taking picture of the girls am I not good enough for you???? stuff like that.. SO that why If I were you I would tell him he either fix the plm or I am gone. you don't need that crap like that ... make sure your family help you and support you and then get child support...
I am so sorry for what you have to go though with this.. You shouldn't go though like this at all... smiling.
2007-04-03 17:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my husband talked on and on about other beautiful women I would take action, there is no reason for that kind of disrespect especially when you're pregnant. Pregnancy is stressful enough without that kind of crap to put up with.
To notice a beautiful woman is one thing to actually tell your wife about it and rub her nose in it is flat out disrespectful.
2007-04-03 17:07:26 · answer #11 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋