2007-04-03 09:45:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean the concept of marriage in today's society
2007-04-03 09:45:57 · update #1
No. People were having sex before marriage centuries ago. Check marriage and birth/baptism records. The reason why marriages are failing so rapidly is because of selfishness, and lack of commitment. Yes some marriages fail because of abuse, but in the majority of divorces that is not the case.
Sex is an aspect of marriage, it is not what makes NOR what should break a marriage.
2007-04-03 09:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not THE reason, but a sign. See, I don't think most people plan their lives for a spouse...they just think marriage will happen when it happens. If a man or woman has slept around before marriage, the spouse might feel like the FINAL one in a long train of lovers. The question is...what did your spouse leave for you and only you? And if the answer is nothing, then how does your spouse show that they really value you above the others that came before? Sex is something that is GIVEN UP at marriage, not something new to share. Doesn't that change the way people think about marriage then?
2007-04-03 16:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. We had plenty of sex before we got married, and we've been happily married for almost 37 yrs.
I would not say that marriage is "losing it's importance."
The problem is that not enough people have the emotional maturity to be in ANY kind of a relationship - married or otherwise.
For a relationship to succeed and grow, there must be more than just love and sex.
There must also be:
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-04-03 18:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this might be one of the reasons why marriages are so disposable nowadays. People seem to be losing self-love, self-respect, and they're always in a rush to do things before the right time. No wonder today we see so many divorces and broken hearts, because what we see is a loss of moral values and all that people seem to seek is their own physical self-gratification. Sex before marriage is irresponsible and inconsequential, to say the least. Just look at the way families are today, and it's all a consequence of poor mistakes. Sex is much more pleasurable between two people who love each other and are committed to each other's well-being. What we see today is selfish "love", which in fact is not (far from it) real love...
2007-04-03 16:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Marcelo A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i sure do feel this is one of the main reasons why marriage is losing its importance and significance in todays society and world. God will not smile on this though as he does not condone sex outside of marriage. Sex was created by God to be enjoyed between husband and wife in the bounds of marriage.
2007-04-03 17:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having sex before marriage, to me, doesn't have much to do with it losing its importance. I could go on and on about the reasons why, but that is not one of them.
2007-04-03 17:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really I do not think sex is the problem if anything I do believe it is the woman of today that need to have all this money just to be happy. So you got your golddiggers, sugardaddys, and so on if anything I think money and materialism in society is a problem people are not getting married. Plus the whole business of promiscuity is on the uprise really if people would realize the importance of finding that special someone for themselves they would live a much more happy life. Really money don't buy love or happiness
it helps when you have those two things already.
God Bless.
2007-04-03 16:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that if there have been many partners, yes definitely. The person will think about people he/she has slept with before every time something physical happens. People compare and thats when trouble comes in...alll the more reason to simply listen when God says no to sex before marriage. Look at all the soul ties and covenants made between the one having sex and the various partners. I would say that apart from that the lack of respect from women and men not telling their wives they love them is 99% of the time the cause of divorce.
2007-04-03 16:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, marriage isnt the answer, committment is the answer. Most people know they can get out of amarriage and when they arent happy its easier to leave then to work at it. Most people confuse sex with love and feel if someone is good in bed then the married thing will be great. They fail to understand that it takes work and committment.
2007-04-03 16:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by thirdeye67 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I certainly do, because I think couples who have sex before marriage don't have that to look forward to after they are married, and they sometimes get an unrealistic expectation of what the marriage would be like.
2007-04-03 16:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋