Did my wife cheat on me?

Question

about six months ago my wife and her sister started going out and hanging together. I thought this was great because they never had a good relashionship. Her sister was here from Florida visiting. One night they went out and it started to get pretty late...I called no answer. She finally came home around 3:30 mind you they went out to get something to eat. The next night the same thing. But this time I recieved a phone call from her sisters boyfriend in florida who was also looking for his girl. Well he told me that my wife had been talking to this childhood friend. And he would call my wife sisters in florida and tell how he was going to break us up. So naturally I confronted my wife...Of course she said he is only a friend and he needs help. Mind you I checked the phone records and they talked 183 times a month..Another night I wanted to go out with my wife and her sister. they said no girls night out. I found her and her sister at a bar with this guy. I have no proof...what shld

Answer 1

Jeez, I hope not, but don't jump to conclusions. It's not right that she hides this from you, but it could be nothing just as easily as it could be something. Make sure you think out what you intend to ask. Your choice of questions are important.

Answer 2

I feel for you my friend. I have been through the stress of not knowing. It hurts a lot. You did well confronting your wife and it seems like your suspicious are justified. It seems like to me that 3 hours of phone talk is a little much. And so if you found her at the bar with a guy, why didn't you introduce yourself. I'm sorry but I think it is ok to have a sister spend time with her sister but I'm not liking the bar seen. There really isn't much you can do about any of it my friend. You just have to trust someone at their word until you find out differently. You are within your rights to question her behavior. This is the sad reality in a marriage when the one wants to look to the hills for something different and does not keep their commitment.
But I've been there many times and can say, it hurt each time my trust was broken by the person I Loved. Sorry you have to go through it but such is life. The best you can do is ignor that green demon that makes you crazy and trust your wife til she shows you different. If I get suspicious, I have to find out if my suspicions are real. So I've followed my mate to make sure she is telling me the truth. That helps some but there is no way to stop someone if they want to cheet on you. That is when you have to make a decision if you want to keep that relationship or let that person have your cake and the other guys too. Sorry I can't tell you something more to help. You may be in for a bad ride when women get out drinking and there are many wolves out there who just don't care about if she is married or not. I hope there are not children involved.
May last word is this. You can pray for help and turn it all over to God if you believe and by doing so, I can assure you that no matter what,
It will all turn out for the best. It might not turn out how you want it , but it will be for your best interest. Rev. TomCat

Answer 3

Sometimes you dont need proof. You need to know that your wife isnt inviting you and is talking 183 minutes to this guy... she is being an irresponsible wife and not being fair in the marriage... How much is enough? You two are partners on the same team, you should be able to go where she goes and vise versa, I understand a girls night out but i think we both know there are men involved in this night out... Just not you. You are smarter than this i hope. Seek counseling. Good luck.

Answer 4

sounds like she's already made a choice. I think you have to confront her with the phone bill 183 times in one month is more than just a friend. I don't know if you have any kids but if not I would give her the boot and let her realize just how good she has it. If you do have kids I would be more subtle but still show her what she stands to lose if she continues to go forward with this relationship. If your willing to take her out and spend time with her but she refuses it sound like she has a problem. See what she feels is missing in your relationship that she thinks she can find elsewhere. Good Luck I know it's going to be hard.

Answer 5

I hate to say this but from my exiperience she probably has or is cheating on you with him. If he was just a friend she would have told you and she wouldnt have been talking to him 183 times in one month. Heck I dont even talk to my friends that much in one month and girls like to talk on phones. You might not have proof but you do have a gut feeling and the best thing you can do is follow it. I hate that you are going thru this because no one should have to go thru this. Good luck and I pray everything works out for you.

Answer 6

You might be able to present the argument to her that you feel very uncomfortable with the current situation and that a lot of the evidence points to at least the appearance of a bad situation. Ask her if the marriage is important enough that she would take this as a request to cut off contact with this childhood friend. It might be that she really is trying to help the friend, but if that were truly the case, why would she exclude you? If she is unable to cut off contact or at a minimum include you in on the "help", present an ultimatum.

Answer 7

well i know from experience that your wife is probably cheating. I was recently married and unfortunately i did the exact thing that she your wife is doing. I would tell my husband that i was going out with a friend and even have her come by and we leave together to make it look good. But we went our separate ways when we got to the club or the bar. I started meeting up with this guy i used to date years ago and things got pretty serious. Eventually i did get caught by my husband because he followed me one night. If any of this sound familiar then she is cheating. I hope you find out and good luck with your marriage.

Answer 8

dude, first you are going to HAVE to come to grips with the fact that she is not only cheating on you, but practically flaunting it in your face.

You say you have no proof.. what more do you need??? the dude in Fla. says that some guy is boasting that he is going to break u two up....she confirms that she is hanging with a childhood friend (who needs help??? bullsh!t)....she talks to him on the phone....stays out till 3:30 in the morning with him...and on "girls" night out, you find them kickin back drinking with the dude.

Im sorry man, but shes either reallllly mad at you about something or ur marriage is in serious trouble. she obviously doesnt respect you because how many guys do you know that would stand for their wife out all hours of the nite not answering the phone, and drinking with another dude, and calling another dude. No one i know.

Bro - you gotta pull your sack together and stand up like a MAN tell that beeeyatch to get back in the kitchen. Handle it in bed and get a good nites sleep...jk, man (trying to lighten it up)

u really do have to stand up and handle this tho...

Answer 9

You don't have to ask. You already know the answer. You are just hoping that enough people will tell you that she didn't get f cked.

However, you already know she did, so it doesn't matter what everyone else says.

She has already lied to you about it, so you will never ever get the whole truth. She will tell you just enough to try and appease you and make the whole thing go away.

Now comes your decision. Are you able to live with the fact that your wife got f cked by another man, lied to you about it, and quite possibly will continue to get f cked by somebody else. If you are able to live with that then stay with her and let her do her thing. If not, then dump the whore and move on.

Answer 10

I'm sorry, she's cheating. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. If my fiance went out and didn't come home until 3:30 in the morning, I wouldn't care what he was doing, we'd have some real issues. That's just disrespectfu - especially since she didn't call or answer your call. If she didn't cheat (and I believe she did/is) then she might as well have. The question is, what are you going to do about it?

Answer 11

Obviously I can't say because I don't KNOW...but in my opinion she sounds like she is. Spouses should not go out to bars on a regular basis without their significant other. If they do, it spells trouble...not too unlike what your wife seems to be doing. Your wife should not be talking to some other guy 183 times in a month. If he has "problems" like she says then he needs to get a shrink...he does NOT need to be talking to your wife.