Why are so many men these days terrfied of committment? What is it about being in a committed relationship that is so awful? Let me know your thoughts...
2007-04-03 09:00:17 · 20 answers · asked by julianna76301 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I only know from a woman's point of view.... and I don't mean some May to December relationship... I know married men who still haven't fully committed to the woman they love..
2007-04-03 09:07:56 · update #1
I don't think it's men in general that are afraid of commitment so much as afraid of being able to stay commited.
At the end of the day you have to respect them for being honest about it, some, just swept away by their lust for a female, rush headlong into a relationship & marriage without properly thinking it......only for them to start running 6 months down the line.........that's a worse thing to do than just admitting before things get to that stage that commitment right now just isn't for them..................why should any man force himself to do what he doesn't honestly feel he could live up to. I think that it's far more responsible to quit before you get too far in.......when a guy is totally & utterly in love with a woman, there isn't anything stopping him from wanting to be with her...........until that time I don't think any man should make himself do what he doesn't want..............
2007-04-03 09:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I have no problem with commitment married almost 8yrs now. Some men and women on the other hand have a problem with commitment because the thought of never being with another person as long as they live scare's the crap out of them. I guess the whole being faithful, honest, forgiving, and compromise, loving only one. I think alot of men are afraid of the whole daddy issue and stuff really there are alot of ladies on this planet that want nothing to do with having kids so really not an excuse. They do not know how express there feelings, unfaithful, can't be honest, controlling,
plus I think alot of guys feel there life may end after marriage
what like single hood is better sorry to tell you guys it's better being married and having someone to hug and kiss etc. then being alone and depressed playing videogames hr. after hr.
2007-04-03 16:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't scared of committment, they are scared of a committment with YOU!!
Obviously you are either overly-clingy, demanding, unaccomidating, or all of the above. Simply being an attractive woman is no excuse for being a general pain in the you-know-where.
I suggest if you really want to land yourself a good one, start being the wife (or long-term girlfriend) every guy wants. A man isn't a fish, you don't "hook them & land them". In fact, hooks are what make most of us run.
2007-04-03 16:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by truthspeaker10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are women like this too. Let's not just pick on the men. Commitment is tied to one person, some people just can't handle this. These differences make the world go round!
2007-04-03 16:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their not afraid, they just don't "need" to like many women do. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with them, it could just as easily mean there is something wrong with women.
Why should a guy commit? Outside of creating a family, I have yet to find a single woman that can give a good answer to that question.
2007-04-03 16:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not ust men that are afraid of committment. I know more women that afraid of it than men.
It is easier to have your own space and not have to answer to anyone or argue your case or compromise. SO it is easier to be alone than commit.
2007-04-03 16:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if by a commited relationship ure talking about getting engaged, for me it just seems like I'm trapped in a corner. if something happens & i couldnt trust the other person anymore or i find another side of her that i dont like then after committing to marriage its like agreeing to let yourself be put into prison. now if by committed relationship you mean going out & being honest with eachother and all that for a long time, staying loyal, there really isnt a reason for people to be afraid of that unless the girl is controling and wont let us hang around with other girls... there ARE some of us who can hang out with groups of hot girls & still be able to restrain ourselves, even if theyre all drewling over us... lol. me and my gf r in wat i would consider a commiteted relationship, I let her hang out with her guy friends, even the ones i know like her, and she lets me hang out with my exes & other girls that like me... we know we can trust eachother so we arent worried
2007-04-03 16:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women have nothing to lose, men have everything to lose if it doesnt work out.. Women get the house and he lives in a one bedroom bed sit. I wouldnt get married if my life depended on it..
2007-04-03 16:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they dont realize what they've got until it's GONE!!!! I hate boys and their confusing indecisiveness, or whatever lame excuse they'll come up with next to try and 'ease out' of your life.
2007-04-03 16:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing awful about it. i'm not in one cause i choose at this time in my life not to be. and it isn't just men, women are wary too...its cause so many ppl lie about who they are to each other and no one is willing to stick with someone through thick and thin anymore.
2007-04-03 16:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by wicked 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋