About a month ago I was going through a rough patch and I decided to confide personal things about myself to one of my friends. This person hasnt returned my calls since, I really dont think their that trustworthy or a friend and I feel vulnerable, as if they are going to tell others about me. Should I feel this way? Anyone ever have a similar experience? How did you get over it? What can I do to get past this and how should I deal with the person if I ever see them again?
2007-04-03 08:55:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
☼ Yes, this has happened to me several times.
For you it has happened, you trusted and it might get out in the open. But, those who are your true friends may come to you with this or by knowing you love you still. I would not associate with that person that betrayed you. Time is your friend. Don't close up and stop trusting, just use caution and wisdom. Only confide really personal things with a trusted friend.
Remember people will fail you and even the best of friends sometimes make mistakes too. I mostly keep my very Private info to myself and share it in writing to myself or pray. It would be nice to be able to share everything with someone, but it is a risk and too much information unless you fully trust them. There are only 2 people in my life that I can share most everything with and feel safe.
I wish you well.
2007-04-03 09:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Golden Smile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the danger of having a friend, in one way or another we all do betray the trust our friends gave us, but, it doesnt make the act a sin. The deciding factor will be what is your inner motivation in divulging the secrets your friend confided you about? If it is to help that friend or maybe you then be thankful for it because in the end it will make your life better. Most secrets are kept secret because there is something unacceptable about it. I dont exactly know what you are afraid of but i think this is one principle in life that should guide us in our future actions and decisions. Nothing will remain hidden or secret forever. Ultimately all that is hidden will be divulge.
The lesson be very selective with friends know them more before you even trust them of your most hidden secrets. But dont be overly cynical, there are exemptions there are good friends that you can trust. Rely your gut feeling.....
2007-04-03 09:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by BigBro Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly did you confide, and what reasons could there be for this "friend" suddenly disappearing?
Eg, if you're a guy and told another guy that you're gay, you have to realise that they might not have the same view on homosexuality as yourself, or they may even have seen it as a come-on.
The above is just an example but to get a more accurate answer to your question I think you need to explain fully, after all this is totally anonymous and that is what makes it so beautiful.
2007-04-03 09:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hopefully they keep their mouth shut. And, I hope you learn not to be so easy to confess your innermost secrets to people you hardly know. I have a tendency to trust those that haven't earned it myself, so I know how your feeling. I wish you luck, and hope you use better judgement next time. Don't take this as critism, I have to tell myself this also. I would probably avoid the subject if I ran into them again, or just a quick reminder that the previous conversation was confidential and move on to another subject.
2007-04-03 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by tangerine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad because you confided personal things to
this person and then now they aren't talking to you.
How long has it been since you talked to this person?
If it has only been a week or two maybe they are
just trying to think through all the info that you gave
them.
2007-04-03 09:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can really get the answers you need without talking to the friend again. There could be a lot of reasons why he/she hasn't talked to you. I would just call one last time and say "sorry we haven't spoken recently, please call me back when you get a chance. I won't bother you anymore, so just call back when you are able. Please remember how much I need those things I said to remain private. Hope to talk to you soon."
2007-04-03 09:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you learn that there are some people who cant handle being told secrets and I would just remember not to tell people you really dont know if you can trust or not
2007-04-03 09:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are nervous about this person telling your secrets. Just try not to worry about it. If you see him/her again just be friendly. You want to stay on good terms with this person even if you're not close so maybe they won't tell anyone things about you.
2007-04-03 09:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never go back, only forward. If she breaks your trust there's really nothing you can do but go on like life is normal.
2007-04-03 09:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what u said
2007-04-03 08:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by histolytic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋