How to toughen up ?

Question

I am way to nice, people can ask me for help anytime and I go flying across the world (literally) to help them. People ask me to trust them and I trust them. I think that friendship is golden and find out it’s not the same to everyone. Every time I tell myself it is the last time I am going to be fooled, then the phone rings at 3 am from a sobbing friend and there I go playing superfriend. And when I ask for help, it is way too much effort for anyone to be there for me. Yes, I know, I am not surrounded by the right people. How can I toughen up? Any article out there, something long and precise I can read so it goes well inside my brain? Should I go boxing or something ? Seems I like to be hit anyways!

Answer 1

What you need is to learn how to say 'no'. You don't need to be mean, you just need to say no. Practice saying it in the mirror first, and then practice scenarios where you would say no. Imagine them in your mind, and then repeat it. Also, make a list of people who have not been there for you, and what happened. If they call you, say 'no' and then say, "You didn't help me when I needed it, so now you know what it feels like" and hang up. Try reading "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" which will tell you how to prioritize your time for what's important FOR YOU!

Answer 2

you're not ready..

but you're seeing the problem. that's a big step number one.

just self focus.. it'll sure help.

Answer 3

Learn how to say NO!

Answer 4

Stay the same,it'll pay off.

Answer 5

it's easy, be selfish. everything else will fall into place.

Answer 6

go to boot camp.

Answer 7

youcant togen up that is your gift from heaven