My husband and I have been married almost a year and we are waiting to have children for a "while" but to him a while is 5-6 more years while I am thinking more like in the next couple of years. How long is too long to wait?
2007-04-03 07:40:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Well I think it depends on how long you've been together and how old you are. Also what your financial situation is like.
My husband an I were together 6 years before we got married. We were married for a year before we started to have children.
We talked about how we want to raise our children, what we would do about taking care of them; daycare or stay at home, how we would pay for everything, wills, life insurance etc. All the "grown up" decisions were all made before we even started trying.
Maybe if you try it that route your husband will feel more comfortable about trying sooner. Good luck!
2007-04-03 08:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. Generally, you have the same fertility at 35 as 25, but then you start going downhill, and it becomes tougher to get pregnant. So, if you want two or three kids, and you want to space them 2-3 years apart, you should not wait much past age 28. If you're 21, then you have years to wait. If you're 27, you'll want to wait a year or two at most. Ask him what he's waiting for. He may not feel ready yet, or he may not feel financially stable. Or maybe he really doesn't want to have kids at all and is hoping to hold you off. In that case, you need to talk now, not wait for years and then find out how he feels.
2007-04-03 07:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really up to the two of you. I am personally against waiting years on end to have children after you are married, but that's my opinion. If you don't want to wait as long as he does, talk to him about it. If it's a money thing, keep in mind that you will always be able to find something else to spend your money on. I don't think that should be the only reason not to have kids unless you can't even support yourselves and are on welfare.
2007-04-03 07:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's truly up to the two of you, but age is a huge factor. The older you are the harder it will be to conceive, Not impossible but a little harder. I would suggest to talk to your husband than talk to your OBGYN ask her for her opinion. After all your talking you should come up with some kind of happy middle!
2007-04-03 08:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by MegM0930 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you should have asked him this BEFORE you got married. How long are you willing to wait? It sounds like that is how long it will be. LIZ
2007-04-03 07:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Eric & Liz E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋