help.... me and my son 11 month old might move to another country(mexico) to be with my husband?

Question

me and my husband have been apart for 2 years and only communicate on chats and emails daily. we have been girlfriend/boyfriend for only 6 months then he got me pregnant, left him and go back home. we saw each other again when i had my baby he came to be with me for a month then he went back to mexico. the thing is, i have known him only for few months, now il go there and settledown to be with him i even give up my career to be with him cause i wanted our child to have his father as well. i do love him and he said he loves me.... but im scared il be on another country which i dont speak the language and knows nobody except him. i need advice.... we might be leaving by this month if everythings fixed

Answer 1

I suggest that you do what you think is right. If I were in your situation, I would not go, for the safety of my child, and my own. I am Mexican myself, and go to Mexico very often. Believe me, some parts are not as safe as they seem. But it's not just Mexico, it's any other country you have no clue about. Just go with your gut instinct. If all your other family is here, then why flee from them. If he loved you he would not force you to move. There are better opportunities here for your family, as in Mexico there is a lot of employment scarcity. You will probably struggle a lot more there than you would be here, as a stay-at-home mom, unless he's going to make you work?!!

Well, just think about it. He might want to be with you, but it is much easier for him to just stay here, in my opinion. You make better money here, you get more help from the government, and is overall a more safe environment than Mexico. I mean I love Mexico and all, but I feel more comfortable here, especially since I was born here, and I am used to this way of life.

Think about what is more important to you; your son's growing up experience, or a man who you barely even know, even though he is the father of your child?!

Have you thought about when your child grows up? Most children who are born in the states and are taken to Mexico, they grow up there, learn the Spanish language, and don't learn the English one. It's kind of sad in a way, since they were born here, they should have had at least the opportunity to stay, don't you think?

Tough decision, but I gave you my opinion.

Hope I could be of help!

Bye!! Take care and good luck!

Answer 2

Caviar...hun...this does not sound too good to me. I think you need to see more of a comittment from him b4 you even consider moving to Mexico!!!! Do you not see people trying to get into this awesome country of ours from Mexico? Stay where you are , raise your baby and really give some serious thought to whether or not the babys father is reliable, stable financially and comitted to you enough to come here, become a citizen and a dependable father and husband. I am quite suprised he hasn't suggested this to you already......don't go...it's sounds unstable to me!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

must you go? why can't you continue on as things have been? i would be as afraid as you are if i were that willing to allow someone to have control over my life...

i sincerely hope you're able to live with the choice you make. my mom used to say: "when in doubt, don't do anything"...sometimes things have a way of working themselves out.

good luck to you!

Answer 4

You just set yourself up for a trap... ever watched not without my daughter???

Answer 5

I would stay here and get your job back if you can.
I'm afraid it will not be good there for you.

Answer 6

you'll get used to it. Its best to move over there. Also best for your child.

Answer 7

Same answer as last identical question.