me and my husband have been apart for 2 years and only communicate on chats and emails daily. we have been girlfriend/boyfriend for only 6 months then he got me pregnant, left him and go back home. we saw each other again when i had my baby he came to be with me for a month then he went back to mexico. the thing is, i have known him only for few months, now il go there and settledown to be with him i even give up my career to be with him cause i wanted our child to have his father as well. i do love him and he said he loves me.... but im scared il be on another country which i dont speak the language and knows nobody except him. i need advice.... we might be leaving by this month is everythings fixed
2007-04-03 07:04:02 · 17 answers · asked by Caviar O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, the thing is...he is your husband. Once you're married you should be with your husband, no matter what country he lives in. You will definitely be living in a place where the man is the head of the house, but if you can handle that, it should be no problem. As long as he is loving to you and your son, things could be good. I think the best thing for your son would be for you and his father to be together. I hope all works out well for you all.
2007-04-03 07:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your heart is leading you that way, go there, and try it.
The Mexican people for the most part are very loving people.
(I'm married to a Mexican.) Giving up everything to do it is scary, but if you don't want "what if" questions killing you, then you can at least try it. If it doesn't feel good to you, or work for you, you can always come back. Just make sure you have a "plan" that if for some reason he turned out to be psycho and wasn't going to let you leave, someone could come for you or something. Start learning the language. Spanish is acutally fun to learn, and one of the easier languages to learn. Good luck to you.
2007-04-03 07:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you have more feelings for him than he does for you. I would not leave the security of having a job in this day in age to go anywhere to be with a man you don't know will be there by your side in 10 years. We can't tell you what to do, but honey, I am 34, was married for 10 years then divorced, and recently remarried, creating a family of 2 adults and 8 children. I am afraid for you and I don't know you. Be careful, think it through, talk it over with family. You always have a choice, always. Good luck!
2007-04-09 12:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by dittersdoodles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. You have a career, a home, family and friends. If he wanted to be in the babies life he would come to you. Also because you don't know international laws, you go there he may take the baby and there's nothing you can do about it. You couldn't even look in the phone book for an atty.
If you really care for your baby keep him safe here at home. Because you may have legal custody through the court or maybe not but it may not matter in Mexico.
Hope this helps
I don't know you but this would be the same advice I'd give to my daughters.
2007-04-03 07:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope u make the right decision but I'll tell u what, Mexican men are worthless, sorry to be so harsh but I live in Mexico and I can't find a decent boyfriend, anyway if u need any help i'd be glad to help you, just email me.
ps. come to mexico with him ONLY if u r sure about HIS feelings for you, otherwise you will have a rather hard time here.
2007-04-05 16:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way would I leave my country to go to Mexico with a man I barely know. So he fathered a child. Big deal! That doesn't entitle him to be a husband.
You need to think about this very hard because once you get out of your own country, there is nothing anyone can do to help you when you are there.
2007-04-03 07:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to first of all, ask yourself, do you want to stay married to this man? Do you really love him? He, right now is your husband and if you love him, well, that is what you need to ask youself. Have a heart talk and ask yourself that question first. You were talking about giving up your career? Is this maybe a position that you could transfer? What does your family think about him? Most important, what do you think? Good luck!! God bless!
2007-04-11 03:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you have made the decision to quit your job and follow him. stop your worry and be positive. you never know what does future lies for you if you did not make the first move. Do not allow negative thought and worries get to you, this will affect your emotions and your life in mexico. Face the problem together with him and your baby. you are not alone at all and i hereby wish you all the best.
2007-04-10 16:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by TO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is a gamble..you married him..and had his child..I would imagaine you are very much in love with him and he you. I would definelty go to be with my husband and begin your life together.Unless he is not a nice person and not a hard worker.It takes two ..to have a child or get preganant..I would definely make sure you did the right thing before I had another child with him. Be happy in whatevver you do..if he is a good provider and you love one another then..perfect!
2007-04-11 05:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come and live with you. Life in Mexico is very hard and you do not want to be stranded in another country where no one knows you or can help you if there is a Problem. Be safe, not sorry
2007-04-07 10:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋