How did you come out to everyone?

Question

I just want to know how you approached coming out to friend and family. I'm thinking about it so I just want to see how you all did it. Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

I flat out told my mother. All she did was asked me if I wanted a cup of tea. My father, well I actually let my mother tell him. My brother, he's mentally disabled and it doesn't mean anything to him. He's great, though, because every time we say the word 'Lesbian' around him, he screams. Not in a bad way, he's laughin when he does.

My aunts and uncles... well, I'm not really connected to my family. I sent them a postcard with 'I'm A Lesbian' printed on the back. True story. You'd be surprised at how many I got back, most of them saying 'Wish You Were Here'.

Hey, let us know how it goes when you decide you're ready. I think it's great! Kudoes to you, mate.

Answer 2

In this day and age it's possible to tell people with an upbeat attitude. Doing so will help them to accept you. It's often better to do so when you have a boyfriend, but it isn't necessary.

You could say something like, "So have you heard the news that I'm gay?" while you are bowling, playing cards or some other activity. That way you'll have something to do while they and you are thinking about the matter. If you have a BF, you can say, "I want to introduce you soon to this guy that I'm dating."

In some ways, if you tell someone, often it will spread like wildfire. If your family is more private, they may insist that no one else knows. Do NOT agree to this. This information is yours and no one else's. If you choose to share it, it's your business.

Ultimately, you'll find someone who will have a negative reaction. Unless you have a particularly religious family, this will probably be a minority. If they threaten you with hell or quote scripture, you can say this is not about the Bible, it's about you wanting to be honest with them. If they persist in following the religious line, you can insist on hearing their thoughts, not preaching. And if they cannot move beyond it, give them some time, but don't hang around to hear yourself berated for being gay. Excuse yourself and go spend time with some friends who love you.

Best of luck. Out is really the best way to live.

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Answer 3

I joined the GLBT community on my campus. They helped me feel comfortable enough to tell others and helped me find the words to tell people. The hardest part of telling someone is the words and getting them out. Almost everyone I told had a positive reaction. I got a lot of support from family and friends. You just have to get the words out. Make sure it is a good setting to do it. Let them ask you questions and answer them honestly and openly.

When I came out to a lot of people, I sat them down and told them. And if I couldnt be face to face it was over the phone.

Good luck dear!

Answer 4

i haven't myself yet, haven't got the nerve to unveil myself at this moment in time, but my boyfriend was driven to the point where he was in tears from his parents spitefulness towards him, and he ended up blurting it out..

to make things worse, it was the day before this big christian thing he'd been working on for a year or so, so it's really taken its toll on him, not the best way to do things.

i suppose i'm hoping to just walk into the room when they are sitting down, casually mention it, answer a question or two, then walk away and let them think about it for a few hours or so before i go back to face them.

Answer 5

Well, I did it kind of strange, I guess. I wrote my friends and co-workers a letter, and either gave it to them to open when I wasn't there or left it on their desk.

My Dad and brothers and sisters, I just came out and told.

Answer 6

right I'm not gay/bi.
so I'm not really sure.

But the people who love you will understand, no matter what there first reaction is.

And as for friends, if they are horrible about it or non-understanding then there not a real friend.

It may seem like hell now, but you can't keep putting it off, people will understand and act normal about it in the long-term.

Good luck

Answer 7

i didnt really come out in a certain way..i just walked around telling everyone i was a lesbian when they asked if i had a bf..i just said no i dont like men..and they were like "oh thats cool"..but in my case, even when i was little, you could tell i was gonna be gay because i liked girls at an early age..so it didnt really surprise anyone in my family or friends when i told them..but for u, it may be a bit difficult if everyone knows u to like girls.

Answer 8

I did the whole sit down and tell them individually thing the second time around. The first time I at everyone down and told them as a group.

Answer 9

I'm only open on my college campus, but there I just be myself. If I see a cute guy, I check him out, just like my buddies would check out a cute girl. People pick up eventually.

Answer 10

I just openly told my friends in college Soph year. Most of them had known, but were polite enough to not say it until I was ready.

My mother told me I liked Madonna too much the first time I told her. The second time she accepted it but her answer again was "of course you are, you like madonna too much."