I DON'T
2007-04-03 06:44:12 · 20 answers · asked by craven 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As a general rule, I don't believe in having an open relationship. I believe that if you love someone he (or she) should be enough for you. Having sex out side of the relationship just doesn't make sense to me.
I do believe, however that if, as a couple, there is a mutual desire to expand the sexual arena to occasionally include a third (or fourth), then that is okay.
To simplify it: playing separately outside the relationship = bad. Playing together with a third = okay.
2007-04-03 09:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by behrmark 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never liked the idea of this. The thing is, and I have told this to every guy that I have dated, if you don't want to be with me and only me, then we have no business being together. That's what I live by. I see no reason for an open "relationship." There is no reason to be with somebody so that you can go slleep with other people. I'm glad to see that other people agree with me.
2007-04-03 14:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally they are a bad idea. Every open relationship I have seen has ended mostly because one partner has fallen for someone else or one partner brings something home, like HIV. The few that do stay together it tends to be more of a contractual room-mate situation.
I think if someone that isn't ready to be a fully monogamous partner isn't ready because they can't put you above their carnal desires.
2007-04-03 13:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by hopeartaspirer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given my particular situation, this answer may not make sense. I, as a Master, have several 'boys' or 'slaves' who are part of my life. They are with me because they choose to learn the leather scene and I as a Master oblige. At the moment I have no bf so it is not an issue. However, when I was with my husband, we had 3 houseboys living with us. Neither myself nor my husband would have sex separately with them but we would occasionally have one of them as a third. It was a mutually agreed event.
Would I do it today? Honestly I don't know. I don't think I would be that open, so to speak, again. I would probably have my bf to myself but still teach the 'slaves' NOTE: teaching 'slaves' does not entail sex, so I don't feel that would be cheating, but again, I can't speak for how someone else may feel about it.
I hope this makes sense and does not reflect poorly on me, as I believe in being honest, regardless.
2007-04-03 14:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on the dynamics of the core relationship. Both individuals need to be very mature in order to handle seeing the other with someone else without becoming jealous or insecure.
2007-04-04 09:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Soren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I don't even consider open relationships to actually be a relationship.
2007-04-03 14:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not for me. However, I know several couples who are open with their relationships. Some of them are happy. Many of them are not. But the same could be said for monogamous couples.
2007-04-03 13:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's just not what I want from life. I know some people do it,. and love it. I wanted a real partner, and to build a real family. I sewed my seeds, many times over, as a young man.
2007-04-03 14:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in them as integral requirements to any relationship into which I might enter.
I won't dismiss them, either.
2007-04-03 13:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An "open" relationship is NOT a relationship! It's childish and silly! That's why I tell all my "buddies" we're not in a relationship it's easier and more honest
2007-04-03 13:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋