2007-04-03 06:43:12 · 35 answers · asked by craven 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tough one......but.......Yes, I would. I can forgive and in time possibly forget, because I am not perfect. We can all fall to circumstance and even though we may be incensed by what a loved one has done, to simply throw away everything because of one mistake seems harsh. Now, the important part. Once is all you get, a second time is not an option nor would I overlook it.
2007-04-03 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they will cheat again. There's obviously something seriously wrong in your relationship for your partner to cheat in the first place so giving them a second chance isn't going to fix anything.
The excuses they give for cheating are exactly that...excuses!
And when they say they are sorry, you must think....are they really sorry for cheating or are they sorry they got caught?
If they were truly sorry for cheating, they wouldn't have done it. There is NO excuse in this entire universe a good enough excuse/reason for cheating. It's hurtful in more ways than one and it ruins lives. Move on to someone who is more deserving.
Don't give them a second chance, you are better than that and deserve better than that. How dare they?!! People will only do to you what you allow them to do. It's all about respect. You must respect yourself and demand your partner respect you too and cheating on you is not only a selfish act but also the ultimate lack of respect. There's someone for everyone and that someone will love you and make you feel good. Love doesn't hurt!
Another simple way of answering your own question is to ask yourself this question.... if I cheated would they take me back?
Booooooooooooooo cheaters suck rocks
2007-04-03 07:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the situation is black and white. There are too many variables to consider to give a stock yes or no answer. I would ask myself some questions:
How long have I been in this relationship?
Do I love him body, mind, and soul?
With whom did he cheat? An ex-bf? A trick?
What were the circumstances surrounding the infidelity? Had we fought? Was he away on business? Was he drunk?
Was this a case of my not satisfying his needs?
Did he cheat in our bed?
Did he bring "anything" home?
The best answer I can give is..I need to examine all the facts.
2007-04-03 09:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I would never trust them again and would always feel betrayed.
That doesn't mean that I wouldn't give them a chance to explain themselves for closure or whatever, but there still wouldn't be a second chance.
For people saying that it's worth trying to save, there's nothing TO save. They already threw the entire relationship out the window when they decided to hook up with someone else.
2007-04-03 07:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, before my current ex my answer was, “H3LL NO!” But, we broke up three months ago and I have found out SO many things. Still, just the other night I told her it’s like she is playing with a Game Genie and has the endless lives code entered. There seems to be nothing she could do to stop me from letting her come home again.
So all I can say is, if you are in love and you think it is worth it then wait it out and roll with it. Everything in life has to happen as it will – good luck!
2007-04-03 07:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by RaeJillian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the kind of cheating. If it was just sexual, it'd likely be fine, if it was more, as in more emotional cheating, I would say no, as that would signal something wrong with the relationship on an emotional level that he must go outside of in order to feel fulfilled.
2007-04-03 07:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to say no, but would probably give them a second or third chance. Depending on if I thought we had something worth saving.
2007-04-03 06:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I gave someone a second chance before, and they kept doing it, but were more careful to not get caught. My answer is no.
2007-04-03 06:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no way. i believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater"..how do you know they're not going to go out and do it again? when you forgive someone for cheating, thats basically their ticket to doing it again. they feel if you forgive them or give them a 2nd chance, this would eventually lead to 2nd chances..if u must give them a 2nd chance, play hard to get
2007-04-03 06:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by ANGIE T. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him a chance to pack his clothes and get out before I set fire to them. That's the only chance he'd deserve from me.
2007-04-03 09:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋