Do You Believe The Husband should be the HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD??

Question

I just want to know what people think about this age old question. If yes, why? If no, why? If you don't mind, could you please include your age with your answer. I am 22.

Answer 1

Yes, that is their role in the family unit. A husband should provide for and protect his family...that is the way it was intended. That does not give him the right to be a dictator in the relationship.

I've been married 7 years and I'm 27.

Answer 2

I'm a 28 y/o male married three and a half years.

Yes, I believe the man should be the head of the household.

A household cannot run as a democracy. The parents definately have to be in charge of the children, but with two parents, if they have a tie vote, there has to be a way to decide who has the deciding vote. For example, if the oldest son gets into a fight at school protecting the younger son, do you ground him? Dad says no, that family sticks together and you don't punish for that. Mom says yes, the boy shouldn't get into a fight and he needs to be punished. Who wins? They both have good, solid reasons for their decision. They don't agree. If the dad doesn't enforce the mom's grounding, then it doesn't do any good, but if the mom grounds and dad lets the kid off without it, then the grounding is pointless. Someone has to have the tie breaking vote, and the other person has to go along with it, agree or disagree.

I've met a few families that it was the mom that it worked, but usually women are more emotional. Men are usually more rational. Not always, but usually... and not completely on eaither, but more. Most of the households I've known that the woman is the head of household, everyone is miserable most of the time because she is primarily concerned with her own emotional state.

Answer 3

The term 'head of household' automatically gives leadership title, and I don't agree the man should be the leader, it should be a mutual partnership, where both man and woman are head of their households, and the decisions are made together about everything. I make as much money as my husband, and I contribute to the household in every way possible. I do housework, yard work, repairs, car maintenance. I guess I am a modern woman, and see it that way, and wish to be respected for my brain not just that I know how to maintain a household, as that is way too easy for me. I don't down any one for choosing their beliefs, it just does not work for me and my home. I am 44 years old, working mother of 3, all my daughters are doing great, my husband is happy, as am I. My husband is 49 years old and he respects all people so he does not have a superiority complex that I believe some men have, and they can't have woman be their equal.

Answer 4

In my opinion i dont think there is only ONE person ruling over everything in the house. It takes TWO people to make a family and house run. That old age question doesnt really exist too much anymore i think now with both partners working and both having to handle the family these days. To me there is no head of the household that doesnt make sense to me because its not like at work there is a supervisior or head honcho and little workers underneath. Families work together, teams husbands and wives are a team and are both in charge especially if there are little ones around both mother and father need to be on the same page. Working? Sure there are guys who go out and work for their families and mothers working as well even stay at home moms but they are all doing it for the same reason...the family. Head of household makes more sense to me reffering to someone who is a single parent and having to make all the decisions and the only one to provide and the only one to carry the load.

Answer 5

I am 36 and I say, Yes, the man SHOULD be the head of the household. But having said that, I think he should also be CAPABLE of being the head of the household. That means listening to his wife, taking in all considerations before making the final decision BASED upon what's in the best interest for all concerned. Being the head of the household doesn't mean laying down the law and being a big bully. It means having a soft enough heart to consider the whole family. If he's too immature, or uncapable of handling a big responsibility of this nature, then the wife has to do it.

Answer 6

Yes, it is the husband that is the HEAD of the household because he is the provider and protector of his household. However, I also believe that the woman is the NECK of the household. She can turn the head around so he can acknowledge all points of views to make sound and sensible judgements.

Answer 7

I am 40. My answer is yes, but the head does not mean the "boss." It means the leader, the one who cares for the rest, the one on whom the responsibility falls. It is the one who goes first, the shepherd, the good king who cares for his people, not just himself.
It is good for a man to have this position, and good for a woman to be under a man like this, for she is free to be cared for and to care for him and her family in return.
This does not mean that the woman is not equal. We are all equal in God's eyes, but we have different roles, and it is important that we play those roles in the right way. When a man is not playing the role right, that puts the woman in a manly position and she loses some of herself. She is not able to be vulnerable and she is forced to be strong all of the time. Being strong is good, but it is not all there is. You need balance and care in order to be healthy. A man is strengthened by caring for his woman and his family, not by using her.
What to do when a man is not being a good "head?" Well, that is another question. The woman must be a help without taking over his role. Giving input without being controlling, being vulnerable without being a doormat, helping a man to find his proper place rather than taking it over from him - these are very tricky things. But it can be done, and when all are in their proper places there is harmony and joy for all.
Our American society has chosen a different system because this one seems to fail, but other cultures do embrace this model effectively. Do not throw out the model just because we see a lot of failed attempts. God knew what he was doing, but it isn't all what we think it is. :)

Answer 8

YES! My husband and I debated this the past few days, since he has a cast on his ankle and I am "the man of the house" I have to cook, clean, take care of our baby, pay for everything, do all the shopping, driving, carry out the garbage, and carry in the groceries. There is a reason my husband is stronger then me and has more stamina. So he can work and do strenght related chores. There is a reason I gave birth, and have breats. So I can take care of our daughter. In our marriage, my husband is stronger has more stamina to work (I hate working) , I am better at cleaning and cooking. So yes I love my husband being the hea dof the household, too much for me to handle!

Answer 9

Yes 45
according to Ephesians 5 20-33
But the man must be willing to lay done his life for her .
You must work together .
In the beginning God took the rib which means she is by your side and your by hers in all things when it comes to a decision and at odds after seeking wisdom out side and looking at all thing the husband makes the final call it may be good or bad but No i told you so lots of love Grace and forgiveness .
It takes work but well worth it !Along with more fun together .
no I in TEAM.

Answer 10

42 - Married 20 years and yes, my husband is the head of the household. He has responsibilities as I do. But he has the final word.