I was in an accident on 2/13/07 and I can't walk. I have a broken leg and have to use a wheelchair. My car was totalled and I'm out of work for atleast six months (I might need another surgery). I keep crying all the time, it upsets my fiance and he doesn't understand why I even cry about it. I have a lawyer for my case because the accident was not my fault at all. I don't think he is doing anything for me. I just don't know where to turn, I keep seeing the accident replay in my head and I can't sleep. I don't know what to do anymore and I don't think this is normal. What is your opinion?
2007-04-03 06:22:24 · 7 answers · asked by Vicki 2 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
You have what's called 'post traumatic stress syndrome' a common occurance after something like what you describe and it is treatable with counseling and medication. Talk to your dr. next time you see him/her.
2007-04-03 10:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an accident and they called in people from 3 states saying they doubted I would make it through the night. That was 35 years ago. It took me close to a year to get better, but I did. Also, I had been married for less than 2 weeks when it happened. I also felt bad, but I had my family and friends to support me and that helped.
Just keep thinking how good it is going to be in the future.
They call that HOPE. Don't give up hope, it will carry you through. Look on the bright side, it didn't kill you and whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Now is the time to be strong.
One last thought. While I was in the service, we were out at sea and had a drill. They called General Quarters and everyone had to go to their station. There was a sailor, and he was going across the flight deck and a jet turned and caught him in its wake and blew him overboard. The flight deck is about 100ft above the waterline. We had already launched the helicopter and the copter picked him up face down in the water. They immediately took him to a Naval hospital somewhere in Spain or Italy and when he was well enough they sent him home to the States. He broke about every bone in his body, his neck, his back, legs and arms.
He went home and got depressed and swallowed a 45. This guy was the same age as me and had a kid the same age as mine, and had a wife like me. so if I had done something stupid like that, I would have missed out on so much of the good things that life has.
Count your blessings my dear and know better days are coming. Look for the silver lining , not the dark cloud.
Good luck, just wait it out.
2007-04-03 14:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Fordman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you aren't just a compassion troll (sorry, but there are a lot of people on here that are full of it) you should probably seek professional help.
It can be hard enough to keep your head up even when ones situation isn't half as bad as yours. Even if you don't like medication, you should maybe consider getting something to help, but make sure not to make it a crutch - depression is one thing, but drug addiction can be much worse, and leave you much lower than you could ever imagine.
As hard as it may be, try to see past all of your problems - find something you can live for, with me it has always been music. Whether listening or playing - it has always allowed me to overcome my own problems, when everything seems to big to handle, or that the world is a large, lonely place.
Good Luck.
2007-04-03 13:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Joe M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel depression like this after a traumatic experience like the one you had. What makes it worse is your physical limitations. Talk to your fiance and tell him that what happened has changed your life. You are lucky to be alive... very lucky. Ask him to please try to understand a little, but dont expect too much as he probably has never experienced anything like this himmself.
As for your depression, I would see a doctor. Tell him/her how you feel. If you feel. If you arent sleeping this could be part of the reason. If you feel suicidal see one mmediatley. Ask about a counselor.
Also something that may help is get a journal, or a blog. However you feel comfortable and write how you feel from day to day. If your angry say so. Its simple, and it helps. I really hope this helps you a little. Depression can be dangerous, and you feel alone alot, but remember that you arent. There is always someone to talk to. Even here. Good luck I hope you feel better soon.
2007-04-03 13:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix13's new account 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i broke my neck at 16 years old in a racing accident..
i'm 47 now and have lived a life much better than most.
to this day i still think back to the accident
.wondering ...what if...................
.i know this is a hard time for you in many ways .
but it will get better..
the flash backs become fewer as time passes
.you will be a stronger person later in life...
2007-04-03 13:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot to be depressed about. Hang in there, the depression will pass as your life slowly returns to normal. In
the mean time, return to your routine as much as you can.
Doing normal things will help you feel normal.
2007-04-07 01:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Aerostar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be Post-traumatic Stress Syndrome
2007-04-03 13:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋