Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while and during our relationship he's been going to court for a crime he commited over a year ago ( not a violent crime or sexual or anything ). He's good to me, treats me & my son good. Since we've been together, he's been going to night school and doing everything he can to better himself. Today he had to go to court, and he called me this morning to tell me he loves me and that his lawyer said he's going to jail. He usually calls me back everytime he gets out of court, to let me know what happened and I haven't heard anything back from him yet. Im really worried about him and hoping he isn't in jail. And if he is.. I dont know what to do. I know alot of people say all guys in jail are losers, but that's not the case. Some have just made mistakes in their past but have changed since then and I believe that to be true about him. How can I be supportive of him & let him know I love him without stopping my life?
2007-04-03 05:54:31 · 12 answers · asked by exwifey2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dunno how long he is in for, thats the problem. thats what he probably found out today.
no, he is not the father of my son.
and.. no. i know for a fact he's not cheating on me or anything like that.
it just bothers me that hes in jail and this is the only thing on his criminal record. neither of us were expecting jail time, because all the lawyers said he'd probably just get probation.
thanks for all the answers though
2007-04-03 06:26:58 · update #1
You write him letters and visit him. These are the important things, you do not and should not stop your life, that would just be crazy and not very productive for you or your son.
2007-04-03 06:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone who has been where you been it's unfortunate you are with someone who's doing nothing, but holding you back. I was with my ex for 5 years he was in and out of jail 4 times over the last 5 years. He told me the same nonsense of how he loved me and how this was the last time he would be in jail.....that wasnt the case. You get sick of the excuses and the lies and the empty promises when you're dealing with someone in jail. When my ex got out almost 2 years ago I knew the mess didnt change and it was after that I decided I couldnt deal with him anymore and it was after I learned that he cheated on me and even got a woman pregnant. You deserve a man who doesnt have legal issues like this or a criminal history it's not worth it and you and your son need to move on with your lives.
2007-04-03 13:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Criminals are can be sneaky. He probably knew that sooner or later he would end up in prison. Maybe he was just building your trust in order to have an ally on the outside. Are you sure that you are his only girl-friend? Be very careful. If you discover anything that you should be suspicious of, RUN RUN RUN. Your son and you both deserve better.
2007-04-03 13:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel i have 2 ex boyfriends who are in jail. they are in for stuff like larency,etc. But to be honest I know u think that he is a good guy and all and I'm not judgin him. But iin my case I just quit writin and accepcting phone calls from them thats how i got over it. Remember everybody deserves a second chance.SO if ur heart tells u to stay with him.then do it. The bible say judge ye not for ye shall be judged.
2007-04-03 13:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out how long he is going to be in jail and ask yourself if you could wait for him? and also if he is going to actually change or if he is going to keep on making this mistake over and over. I do believe there are people could make a drastic change in their lives if they really want. Use this time to analyzide everything around him, don't just see the things you want to see be true to yourself. Good luck!
2007-04-03 13:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by alma c 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what I dont know how old are you but I"m goingt through the same thing, He just got out in Dec. Hmm? The only thing I can tell you is to dont listen to everyone people go through tough times and right now is his and he needs you to support him Stand by him visit him and do not cheat on him please dont do that its just wrong . I was faithful to him the whole way through and wrote to him everyday you need a friend to help u out not to tell u his worthless. Reguarding how to find out if he went in Call the court say u are his wife and need to know if he went in they will ask for his birthdate and first and last name. Thatshow i found out.. Best of luck for u and your family is you need some encouragement email me I know how it feels it sucks but your strong keep loving him and be all that he needs u to be and thats his right arm.. his best friend throght thick and thin ...God Bless
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2007-04-03 13:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by flaca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long is he gonna be in? I'd say if you really want to be supportive, write to him and visit him when you can. I wouldn't bring your son with you too much if you can help. (is he the father of your son?) If he is take your son occasionally, you don't want your child to become accustomed to jail atmosphere.
2007-04-03 13:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long is he going to be in jail? If it is for years, you better move on.
2007-04-03 12:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend in jail (not prison) and we were allowed to write, and he could call me but it was collect.
2007-04-03 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him and carry on with your day to day life until he gets out, he can finish his schooling in jail.
2007-04-03 12:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋