We met senior year of college and have been together for over a year. We live in different cities (100 miles apart) and see each other 2-3 times per month.Recently our true differences have been coming out. She is very logical, fact based, plans a lot, needs stuff to make sense. I am "feeling based", trust my gut instinct, happiness-driven, in the moment type of person. At first we seemed to complement each other, but now we have been fighting, especially over issues like money (she nickel and dimes everything and gets mad when she has to remind me to pay her back)(i think it all comes back in the long run) and thinks I am immature with leaving stuff out, toilet seat up, dishes in sink etc.We seem to have a strong bond for us to have stayed together this long, but is it too much of a sacrifice to deal with such different personalities? Am I being unfair to not change some of my ways?What is the best route to take here?Take a break to realize what we truly have? Beginning to be unhappy.
2007-04-03 05:30:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You just described exactly what happened in my family with my nephew and his fiance. She is a perfectionist, he is super laid back. I won't describe it because it would be repetitive of what you said. He let the matter go until the last 2 weeks before the wedding. An elaborate wedding was planned. He started having panic attacks and couldn't breathe, and ended up in the hospital several times. Finally, 2 days before the wedding, he called it off. That was the bravest and best thing I have ever known anyone to do.
At first the girl and her family were devastated. After two years every one is happy. She found a guy who is as much of a perfectionist as she is. And my nephew is living happily in his own house, looking for a girl who will not be upset with his slobby ways. Be brave!!!
2007-04-03 05:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this...but I don't think that your relationship is gonna work. You live 100 miles apart and she is concerned about you leaving the toilet seat up? That has nothing to do with love, that's just odd.
2007-04-03 12:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The toilet seat up,and dishes just sitting in the sink would bother me too.
Some type of compromise is clearly needed here.
2007-04-03 12:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've stayed together because you aren't together a lot. I don't think you're compatible, but if you want to stay with her, you both need to compromise. mostly you need to talk to her about everything.
2007-04-03 13:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're starting to recognize the inevitable and need to start getting out more.
2007-04-03 12:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-04-03 12:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋