They want me to belive that I am their friend, but It's like I am invisible when they are together. When they are separate, they act normaly, but ... I feel like a stranger. What to do ?? They are my best friends ... but now ... What to do ? Plz answer. It is good to just leave them alone, without talking with them ? Or should I get back to them ?
2007-04-03 05:25:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Then these are not friend's in my opinion. There is a difference between a friend and an aquaintance. A friend is someone who treats you the same as when they are alone with you, as they would when they are with someone else. They respect you. They care deeply about your feelings and would never want you to feel awkward and not yourself in their presence. You are feeling like a "third wheel." You are feeling "disrespected" and not valued. You have the right to be respected, and appreciated. It is time for you to spread your wings and find real friends. IF they ask you why you are drifting away...if that actually happens, then you can be very honest. Tell each one of them separately when you are alone exactly how you feel when the three of you are together. Perhaps, just perhaps it may cause them to pause and reconsider their behavior. But most importantly you must have enough self-respect and self-esteem to decide what you will and will not tolerate from a friend.
2007-04-03 06:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk. Since u say u feel like a stranger its because u don’t know what 2 do. All u have 2 do is talk and they’ll c u more of a person they wouldn’t lie 2.
2007-04-03 05:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by ღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain that you feel like a third wheel, I don't think it's a betrayal thing i think that sometimes they just forget that before the two of them it was the three of you. It's gonna be hard at first but you have to think about how you act when you have a new relationship.
2007-04-03 05:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course let them know how you feel. If they continue the behavior, move on and get other friends but keep in touch with them. Sometimes, people aren't aware that they are hurting someone. Just tell them and see how they change.
2007-04-03 05:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I was in middle and high school. Perhaps it's time for you to meet new friends. Talk to the people in your classes and your after school activities. You may discover that you have more in common with these people and strike up new friendships. I did the same thing and it worked for me.
2007-04-03 05:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
real&fake. real- strangers couldnt quite betray u reason they dont kno lots approximately you. and on yahoo solutions, as quickly as we seek for suggestion or despite isnt that kinda trusting strangers? reason i enormously doubt u comprehend each and each guy or woman at here. fake- some human beings available are good and undesirable..and whilst u have confidence a stranger they could be between the undesirable. does that make experience?
2016-10-02 02:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by fogleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me once and i know how you feel, i guess the best thing is to try and be friendly but if this behaviour continues, then i guess try and talk to them about it. or if u cant, thinking that they will take it the wrong way then, just ignore them and move on.
2007-04-03 05:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by juliet n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let them drift away. It's hard enough to lose friends, you don't need a bunch of drama in addition to your loss.
2007-04-03 05:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are not your "Best friends!", just give them the cold shoulder and make new friends. Friends like that are not truthfull with themselves. Watch the movie "Mean girls!"
2007-04-03 05:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by alma c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I know exactly how you feel. I always have the usual two friends I hang out with, but they always seem to push me to the curb. They don't want me to be near them so I feel so much sympathy for you. Not out of pity of course :] Anyways, I did try several methods because this happened manyy times!
-First of all, try breaking the ice! Express your feelings through a note to one of them, or if you're up to it, try both of them. If they end up ripping it and ignoring it, you can take that as a clue as they don't want you. I know it sounds harsh, but these things happen. If they understand and talk to you about it, maybe things might get better. You can straighten things out, and it'll be really great if you can get some laughs out of it, too.
-However, if they do ignore it, take it as a clue to find some new, and better friends. Don't try to impress them, or make them jealous when you're hanging out with your new friends because that'll bring you down to their low level. Don't get me wrong, because since I don't know your friends at all, but hey, they might be really good friends.
-I still think its all misunderstanding. Maybe they think you're ignoring THEM and that they're saying, "ok, you don't want to be near us, so we'll leave you alone." Then if that happens, you should try getting involved in their conversations more.
-Rethink this quote, "The one that made you cry isn't worth your tears. The one that is worth your tears, never makes you cry." Have you ever cried for them? Maybe they don't realize they are hurting someone. I remember that i cried for my best friends, but they never cried for me. I feel hurt about that even to this day...
-One last method is to get a 4th member to join your little group. Then maybe when your two original best friends hang out together, you can hang out with the other 4th member.
I am still trying several methods, because believe me. This happened to me wayyy more than 3 times! I am so sorry you have to go through this because this turns out to become verryyy depressing and stressful. I remember once, two of my best friends told me off and they made me change my whole lifestyle. I finally figured out that i don't have to meet their standards to be their friends. I acted like my normal self one day, and they looked suspicious. I totally ignored them for 2 weeks, and finally, they came to me and told me they were sorry. Of course, because of my kind nature, I accepted it, but we weren't a group anymore. We just talked and laughed like old times but we dispersed more often. Aw, i hope my advice helps because this is such a terrible thing, since your friends are the people you come to when you need help and its the friends that you laugh and go shopping with trying on these weird things. i hope this helps! <333
2007-04-03 05:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋