Forgive and forget, but how do I when my husband doesn't do much to heal my wounds?

Question

I don't know how to get over the fact that my husband keeps on defending my "EX-BEST FRIEND", she betrayed me turning my husband against me, by giving out my email to all kinds of guys, by telling my husband it was ok for him to move in with her, by giving porno sites to my 15 yr son, by persisting to be my husband's best friend. I went against my husband and trying to be a good friend and now he uses that as his excuse! to keep his friendship with her. I don't know if they still talk, (according to him they are not!) but yet I haven't heal from find out emails between them in which she tells him to lie to me and to go out to her place or do things together, where he complaints to her about me and she adds more to the fire. I am very very hurt by their betrayed. I don't know what to believe or if I ever going to heal from this wound. My husband and I have arguments over her and all her intentions! I am just tired and fed up of feeling this way. How do I forget all the hurt?

Answer 1

You need to first forgive yourself for picking this two individuals into your life... really this is a mess, and why you let it get this far I'll never know... but really why do you even give her the title "friend" theres nothing friend about her, her business and loyalities are with you, not him. As soon as she even thought about being more his friend should of been a warning sign to you. Because this guys is a jerk, he saw her as a way to control you and bingo he was right. So you got yourself quiet a son of a gun there, but I guess its to late to go back now.... of course it doesn't look like your going to have a choice this guys already showing classic signs of not really loving you... honest... love is more the a word and a marriage agreement. Love is what brings compassion and passion into our lives, and sweet heart there is nothign compassionate about a husban using a wifes friend for anything more then finding a way to understand her better not defend himself... looks like your going to pay a high price for this guy and her.... believe this as long as you continue to love him, more then yourself, you and your kids are going to have loads of more heck to go thru.... I mean really he thinks he should still be her friends? I'm afraid that can only work if he loves what she does for him, better then you, childish I know, but this guys got it in spades.