Is it normal to question you sexual preference when your 30?

Question

I am married...always liked "boys"...but I am finding myself very, very attracted to woman. I do not want to cuddle with them and tell them I love them...I just want bump nasties with them...Whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

1) "Preference" implies choice. I think you are referring to your inborn, natural sexual orientation.

2) People take different amounts of time to understand their natural orientation. I have known people who did not discover their true nature until age 60 or more.

Have fun! Good luck! Stay safe!

Answer 2

There is something wrong with that, and I'll tell you why. You see we adult humans are in some ways like little children when it comes to the spirit world, which is just as real as this world however, unseen by human eyes. There are lying spirits, feminine spirits, jealousy spirits, angry spirits all trying to take over someone. There are literally more then we could count. Now those who are not tightly connected to the Light of God's power and protection are sitting ducks. A masculine spirit can embody a women and cause her to doubt her own sexual gender. I believe 1st or 2nd Peter speaks that in the last days of time this would happen. He tells that because people rejected the truth of righteousness and the laws of God, that God would give them over or in other words, not protect them from these dark spirits because they didn't want to hear the truth. See also 1st or 2nd Thes. You had better be very afraid of what you are being drawn in to do because these homosexual demonic spirits are some of the strongest ones and it is hard to be delivered out of their hands once they take possession of you. Pray for protection (Yahweh)

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Answer 3

Well that's not your sexual preference, that's your sexual orientation. Unless you ARE referring to your PREFERENCE which would be that whole bit of "bumping nasties."
Yeah, well women at around the age of 30 or so start becoming more sexually aware, they appetite grows and they can become more "daring."
But to say you have no desire for the kinder side makes me wonder if you're genuine at all.
Sounds like you're just baiting the water here.

Answer 4

I don't think you're questioning your sexual preference. I think you're just craving something that you're obviously not getting. I don't mean to sound nasty or anything, just being honest. Perhaps whomever you're with at the moment, if you're with anyone, simple isn't providing you with what you need. I don't recommend you go out there and get yourself a woman, because that could be potentially hurtful to her. If you're really that desperate, there are places you can go to find people to satisfy those needs. But are you really aware of what you're getting yourself into? Do you have any idea what sex between two women is like? If not, don't kid yourself.

Answer 5

Hee hee. I went through a phase like that recently. I actually told my fiance I thought I was bi. He ended up being OK with it, but to tell you the truth, once I let the cat out the bag about my little fantasies, they kind of dwindled. I was invited to this bi party and never attended because I just got weirded out by the whole thing. I figure if I was really bout it, I would have went to the party and did my thing. But I didn't. I'm pretty much over it. Sometimes fantasies should remain as such.

Answer 6

This is VERY UNDERSTANDABLE!!

Women ARE very attractive to me too, I would like to bump nasties with most of them...

Don't Worry so Much, there is nothing strange about this.

Infact.....We Both love women, We have something in common!

Answer 7

Her sensitivities would desire to be based around adolescence abuse. i replaced into sexually abused as a baby and for me, some issues purely make me sense like i'll have a flashback to my adolescence. seek advice from her approximately it. My husband and that i've got brazenly stated my abuse and he knows that when i do unlike something through fact it jogs my memory of what occurred or makes me sense like a baby, I purely tell him. if she wasn't abused, perhaps she purely is picky. and that's ok. she is thoroughly usual. clarify to her that when she restricts what you're allowed to do, it makes you sense uncertain, on the grounds which you do no longer comprehend what she needs.

Answer 8

I think many people have fantasies and it's common for people to have these kinds of thoughts. Especialy with all the advertisments and television influence we have.

Just remember they are fantasies. Your marraige is a reality. They don't mix. If you bring your fantasy into reality it will destroy your marraige and your ability to be intimate in true love. Love was created with boundries, when you break them you have strayed from what true love was meant to be.

Answer 9

Sexual awareness of oneself can occur at anytime in your life. Sometimes, because of religious or societal pressures, people don't allow themselves to explore who they are completely until later in life.

Answer 10

i LUV your nic....Not sure I believe you; but, heck, you may be THAT honest...

I don't think the bumpin uglies will work all that well with two gals...unless you first visit 'Priscilla's'...

And, of course, there is always the old stand by of tongues and fingers...

My guess is: you are sexually 'starved'..and the fantasy of uncommitted sex will allow you to 'live with the guilt' and seems alluring...hmmm, reminds me of eve, in the garden..the fruit (that embodied the knowledge of good and evil) looked alluring....Just a free association...