Psychology-Writing to your Inner child?

Question

Hi,

Has anyone ever done this or learned about this type of therapy and could shed some light. I was asked to do it by my counsellor...I just wondered if anyone else had any experience of it.

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Answer 1

Yes, I have done it and I recommend it to clients. I was reared in a home where my father was an alcoholic. He was a good man, and was funny, but he had problems with alcohol. My inner child longed for a parent and for someone to pay attention to me and care for me. I missed out on that. Now, I can "talk to that part of my personality" and can comfort and nurture. I can parent me. So can anyone.

Writing about your inner child or to your inner child can make you aware of your own needs and wishes.

There is an excellent book by Jon Bradshaw, "Healing the Shame that Binds" that teaches you how to communicate with your inner child. It is slanted toward alcoholic parents, but it excellent none-the-less. Get a copy and get started.
Dr. J

Answer 2

Although this seems a bit 'new agey', it does work.

The Inner Child can be likened to yourself in a state of purity - a blank slate, without the historical baggage that has become attached through experience of life.

Writing to your inner child gives you permission to re-explore yourself, to slough off the negative influences, to allow the real you to re-emerge.

We acquire experience, and some experiences are worth keeping - those that enable to steer clear of danger, for example. However, a lot of experiences are negative, from nasty people, and these need to be excised. If you have too many nasty experiences imprinted upon yourself, they outweigh the good or useful experiences and you become inbalanced and inclined towards seeing the negative side of life.

Another interesting and effective rebalancer is the positive Mantra technique. Think of a positive phrase for a quality that you wish to inculcate in yourself, make it into a phrase (e.g. "I am calm", and repeat it to yourself for about 5 minutes each day. Try to stop any other thoughts that impinge on this process. You can expand to have a whole series of mantras "I am powerful, I love life" etc etc.

By these techniques, you are giving your subconscious a chance to bask in the positive. Once it knows it can so bask, the process will become self-expanding.

Finally, although this seems airy-fairy, it does work. I'm no New Age Guru - I'm a fifty year old bloke in a practical job.

Answer 3

Absolutely, it's a brilliant technique. Like the old addage goes..."if I knew then what I know now...." Many of us still have a space in our psyche that hasn't grown up, it is stuck in neutral at the time and age where we experienced a trauma, for example. It is a way for you to have closure with that which is subconsciously or consciously troubling you. You can't literally go back in time and talk to the child, but you can write a letter, it will bring all those thoughts to the top level of your consciousness, and you will have a much easier time sorting through your thoughts and troubles and realising that you have overcome, and are ready to heal. You will be surprised at how much better you will feel. The proverbial weight will be lifted from your shoulders because you will no longer have to carry those thoughts with you. Once they are down on paper, they are no longer trapped within you. Here's to freedom. Cheers.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Uuuuh? What sort of idiotic therapist do you have? What is this bollocks about "inner child" Do not trust any of them, they are all quacks and charlatans. Any one can set themselves up as a "therapist" never mind they have just come out of nick for GBH or something similar. Watch Pamela Stevenson/Connolly on More4 TV tonight to see one of these idiotic quacks in action. There is a move in parliament to get these people registered with proper professional training and certification, when this is done, they can be struck off, just like doctors can. Have nothing to do with any of them, they will all lead you right up the psychological garden path. Very dangerous and stupid people.

Answer 6

If you look back to your childhood there may be areas that perhaps you were not being listened to and you may need to resolve them. So now you are an adult you can go back in mind and see that child - how would you help her, perhaps by listening to her and then this child (you) would hopefully find closeure by being heard.

Answer 7

No sorry, I am very much in contact with my inner child

Answer 8

Is it to resolve things in your life so you can move on?

Deep question thanx!:-)

Answer 9

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