GF Problem big time!?
Hi, a week ago I had an argument with my gf and I hung up on her. I didn't call her until the day after. Then after I called her, we made up and then she told me she was mad and she got back at me by working in a massage parlor and had sex with 5 guys there. I was so hurt and she said she would not do it again.
Anyway, any opinions why she would do something like this and what would you have done? Would you forgive her or not?
P.S:
For those of you who think this is a joke, it isn't. It happened in Hong Kong, not North America.
2007-04-03 04:57:22 · 23 answers · asked by White Shooting Star of HK 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is an *extraordinarily* awful thing to do in one afternoon's fit-of-anger and resentment...
this is not a forgivable act... OR, if you DO find it to be forgivable, it's something that should tell you that it's not the kind of woman you want to be with...
do you REALLY want to be with a girl who, (single for an afternoon or not), goes into a parlor and has sex with five men?
come on, easy answer.
much harder to follow through on, but it will only cause you grief if you take her back.
care for yourself in this matter
whatever her actions, you are responsible for getting yourself into any kind of further involvement with this kind of girl.
2007-04-03 05:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch Dude!! Is she just saying she had sex with 5 guys to get you pissed off or did this actually happen. If she did do it with 5 guys then the chance of her cheating again is high. If she doesnt respect you and treat you right then she is not worth your time. Good luck with everything. There are lots of fish in the sea!!
2007-04-03 05:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her...she is not worth the headache or heartache. She can come up with excuses as to why she did it and say that she would never do it again. Chances are she will do it again and use being mad at you as an excuse. Are you willing to live like that and keep forgiving her over and over? It is your call but buddy I don't think a relationship like that is worth keeping.
2007-04-03 05:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ice,I can understand your condition.First of all,Be aware as that girl can bring dreadful disease like HIV+ to you so be careful,if you have any physical relationship with her.Secondly,Your G/F seems to be of flirting nature.Did she told you about those 5 guys or you got to know from somewhere alse.If you got to know this from a stranger then let me tell you such type of girls don't know actual meaning of luv.Leave her and try to forget her,it would be difficult but easy than getting hurt all time but if she told herself then,talk to her how she takes you and your relationship,if she is serious and admit her mistake then think hundred times before taking any serious decision like marriage as your g/f seems to one who changes with wind otherwise leave her.Open new doors for yourself.Good Luck
2007-04-03 05:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by ask me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you accept this, you are dead... First she had sex with 5 guys, second she will definitly lose respect for you and finally let you. Anyway, it will be hard. So break the first. Stop thinking. Break the first. DON'T ARGUE. Whatever you think, or feel, don't show anything. Above all. Don't look or sound upset. Whatever you feel, act INDIFFERENT. In these circumstances, only ONE word counts : survive !
2007-04-03 05:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did it thinking it would make you jealous and to also make you believe she didn't care about you. As you can see, it didn't work - she does care about you, regrets doing what she did and you aren't jealous - you are hurt.
I hope she learned that getting "revenge" only hurts the person trying to get revenge.
Of course you need to forgive her - I think what you are asking is would you try to have a relationship again. That's your call as you know her and yourself best.
2007-04-03 05:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be she was trying to prove to herself that she didn't need you. Could be she felt she was getting back at you by doing it. Revenge if you will.
However, if this is her way of dealing with an arguement then the relationship has bigger problems then this one arguement. She has some personal issues to deal with. Her promise not to do it again may wring hollow otherwise.
2007-04-03 05:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL.... HOW MAD CAN YOU BE AT SOMEONE TO DO SUCH A THING...
Apparently she knows that sex is a big deal to you and has found the perfect way to hurt you...
FORGET HER... don't be mad at me, but she's a Hooo... You can do better than that... don't waste your time breaking your head over this, is not worth it at all...
FORGIVE AND FORGET!!!!!
Good Luck
2007-04-03 05:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I would have to kick her to the curb. Its not about getting back at you, its about having love for one another and for her to go and do that is just showing how much respect she has for you and the relationship she has with you. My opinion, drop her, find someone else, its not that serious, life is too short to be putting up with bull schit..
2007-04-03 05:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with her RIGHT NOW. She is no one's girlfriend. She slept with 5 guys because she was mad at you? Get rid of her. She is made for Jerry Springer.
2007-04-03 05:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by UPGRAYEDD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋