I just told a friend of mine that I am pregnant. He said thats great when is the baby due? I told him in November making me 6 weeks pregnant. He said, Oh....I wouldnt have said anything if I were you. Too many of my friends tell too early and bad things happen. I was a bit hurt by that. Should it bother me or am I overreacting?
2007-04-03 04:27:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That was a weird thing to say. You are hormonal and he shouldn't have said anything like that. People can tell when they are pregnant whenever they want. Some people say wait until the third month, but most people don't do that. It is not a big deal to tell a person you are pregnant right when you find out. You are excited, of course! I wouldn't take what he said to heart. Just let it go, and congrats!
2007-04-03 04:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a highly unkind remark of him to make....Unfortunately, a lot of people do still stick to the myth that you shouldn't tell before 3 months, but that is a personal decision unique to each person.
If you are comfortable sharing your great news, and are excited and want to tell people, then you go ahead and shout it from the rooftops! Don't pay any attention to other people's superstitions, because trust me this probably isn't the only superstition someone will try to warn you of during your pregnancy....the old wives tales come from all directions the whole time, just let it roll off of you!
And as to him saying bad things happen, things don't go wrong just because you have chosen to share the good news of your coming child, don't listen to that hogwash for a minute!
Congratulations, and you keep right on sharing your good news with whoever you feel like telling!
2007-04-03 11:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Bruja 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I myself am 12 weeks and my hubby and I are just now telling out parents! I had an early miscarriage before so we just wanted to be sure. A lot of people do wait, some don't! Either way... He's a guy and has no clue whatsoever of how your feeling (and boy, I know you are FEELING every little thing!). I would'nt take it personally, as a matter of fact, someone says something stupid to me on a daily basis! Wheather it be horror stories of labor or miscarriage.... blah blah blah! I just chalk it up to people not having a clue! I don't walk around telling everyone about how very emotional I am..... Thus, I take it with a grain of salt.
Congratulations!
Best wishes!
2007-04-03 11:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by gracie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be over reacting a little, but that is a symptom of pregnancy. I don't really think that you are over reacting, but don't let it bother you. Your friend was tactless to say that to you. Some people don't tell about their pregnancy until after the first trimester, but they are just being superstitious. Telling people you are pregnant early won't cause you to have a miscarriage. I told people about both of my pregnancies as soon as I found out and I never had any problems. Just ignore him and enjoy your pregnancy.
2007-04-03 11:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not overreacting. A lot of women don't tell anyone they're expecting until they are past 12 weeks..In the safe zone. I've lost 4 myself, and this time around didn't tell anybody until it was quite obvious I was pregnant. It's your baby tell who you want. Just take care of yourself, and congratulations!!
2007-04-03 11:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by JodiMarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations! I am due in November also! what is your due date? About your friend I just think he is a guy and they don't know when to keep there mouths shut!lol. I told everyone i know that I'm pregnant, so i wouldn't worry 2 much about him!!
Again Congrats!
2007-04-03 12:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by ~*♥Mrs. Mommy Randazzo♥*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry about your friend. Bad things don't happen just because you tell too early. It may not have been meant for the others. Letting that get to you may harm your baby. Don't stress over something so petty.
2007-04-03 11:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by imnlove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a bit rude of your friend to try to bring down your joy with that comment. It would bother me as well. I am 7 wks and I think I have told anyone who will listen to me lol. You have every right to be excited and he was careless in making a statement like that. Good luck and don't let him drag you down, a baby is definently something to be happy about!!!
2007-04-03 11:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell people whenever you want! Plus dont forget, your a little more emotional right now! People dont seem to realize they should really watch what they say to pregnant women! We are sometimes overly sensitive. Congrats on the baby!
2007-04-04 00:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~HOLLY~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an old wives tale to wait until your past your 3 month mark.
I don't think you are over reacting in the least. You would expect him to say congratulations or something. I think it was inappropriate for your "friend" to say something like that.
2007-04-03 11:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by loveonna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋