I am not very thick skinned, when someone says something negative, i get VERY annoyed and irritated by thinkin

Question

too much.

I wana know, what can i do to try make myself more thick skinned and not worry about what people say - i even worry if its not a big thing!!! like a dirty look, not from strangers as such but people that i know.

Many thanks.

My word, what excellent and inspirational answers, thank you all so much for your EXCELLENT answers.

Thanks you.

Answer 1

The more dirty looks you get the sooner you get use to them then you become thick skinned.Good Luck

Answer 2

This was one of the hardest things for me to 'grow' out of because of my surroundings and the neighborhood and culture of the people in it. I would walk down the street and feel almost obligated to defend myself if someone looked me in the eye's. The thing is most people just don't want to be bothered by others they don't know. And the only way to get over it is to put off a non - threatening 'vibe' yourself. The second you have a little more confidence about yourself and your surroundings then you begin to realize that people do relate to how you feel even if they don't say it. I take comfort in that because most guy's who are my age and from my background find it really hard to relate to those who they don't know or have never seen! But when put in situations when they don't feel uncomfortable or don't feel threatened can actually show some of the less combative human traits despite what popular demand says they should be if you know what I mean! One!

Answer 3

My friend I understand what you are asking; however, it sounds like you are "think" skinned to use the venacular and desire to become "thick" skinned. Consider this....
Discover your never changing "personality" type...it sounds very much like you may be what is known as a "feeler"....I also am a "feeler". That simply means we by instinct tend to to take things "personally" when most things are not meant personally. It can be a problem until we learn it is a natural gift we have to also see things in a more harmonious view.

Go to http://www.personality-power-for-everyday-living.com and take a free Myers-Briggs personality test and learn what the difference is between the "feeler" and the "thinker".

We all have instinctively inprinted tendencies to behave in certain ways...you are doing nothing wrong by being who you are....just learn that there are differences and you can learn how to "flex" with the differences you perceive.
There are 16 personality types discover which one you are and see if it helps.
All the best!

Answer 4

People who criticize others are sometimes lacking in self-confidence. They seek others whom they put down in an effort to make themselves feel good. It's a sick way to live but I've run into many many people who're like this. They attack you because you have something they're jealous of or they know you're sensitive and in a sick manner they pick on you intentionally because it makes them feel superior...............which they're not.

Remember, you are the master of your own destiny. If you show weakness there are "wolves" out there who'll exploit this.

Many times I try to make it appear that I'm not bothered by what others say. When they get no response, no reaction out of you, they're less likely to keep pestering you.

Just like one of the people who answered your question. He's one of the perfect examples of what I'm talking about. He attacked you w/o any valid reason.

He's the one with the problem. I firmily believe in the "full circle" theory. What we put out..........generally comes back at some point in time to hit us right in the face.

Also remember that GOD made you for a specific reason. HE placed you on this earth for a purpose. It's up to you to find that purpose and to maximize your potential.

Don't give up.........don't ever give up.

Answer 5

Unless that someones opinion means something to you, (example, Partner, family, friend) you have to ask yourself the question, do you really care what other people think? Every time you feel yourself tense up from a negative comment, work out if it is constructive or just having a go. If you feel they are having a go, then just tell them to keep their opinions to themselves. Stop your mind wandering off and winding yourself up before you go down the to much thinking route. It is all mental discipline.

Answer 6

Isaiah 61:6 " For your former shame, you shall recieve a two fold recompense. Instead of disgrace and humiliation, you will possess a double portion."

That means, when people mistreat you, when unfair things happen, if you will stay on the high road and keep shaking it off, God will pay you back double for all that hurt and pain. He will add up the heartache, the sorrow, the mistreatment and He will pay you back with twice the joy, twice the peace, twice the favor and twice the victory.
So just shake it off and know you will be getting double!

Answer 7

I try to think of it this way.....what others think about me is none of my business, it's their opinion and their right to feel however they choose. I know myself, the kind of person I am and my positive and negative qualities. There are few people whose opinions of me matter. That would be my wife, my family and my best friends. Other than that i can't control what others think or feel and I consider it their problem if they choose to judge me in a negative way. Know yourself, be proud of your good qualities and your accomplishments and try to ignore negative judgements of others. Practice this daily and soon it will come naturally. You will be a much happier person.

Answer 8

It's your attitude, shift it to positive thoughts instead of negative ones! You choose your thoughts and you can choose to look at things in a positive light or you can choose to look at things in a negative light. You create your own reality with your thoughts! Concentrate on all the good things, be greatful for what you do have and always look on the good side of things and you will see change, good change!

Answer 9

One thing you can do that will work - maybe the only thing - is to adopt this attitude- thought process about people in general...

"Billions of people, all thinking different thoughts, some positive, some negative...it's silly to expect everyone to have positive thoughts...that's not a realistic expectation...their thoughts have nothing to do with me...it's their thoughts, their lives...I can only control and care about my own thoughts, my own life."

It's realistic, you have to agree. Commit to this attitude-thought process and you'll be amazed how quickly the annoyance and irritation disappear.

Answer 10

Well Mark Elliot is really pissed off isn't he.
Maybe his mum has just spanked his bum or somat.
It's hard to answer your question
You either have a think skin or you dont.
Nothing people say really irritates me
as it is only words, only way it irritates me
is if i know for myself what they are saying is true.
Try not to dwell on it so much.