i am ticked off, but should i be? i was in a car accident a while ago and my husband got so upset with me.?

Question

well i wanted to go to the movies, but my husband did not really want me to go, but i went anyway with my son. to make a long story short, i was hit by another car on my way home from the movies. my husbands was immediatly upset, because he told me not to go in the first place. ok, now the insurance people are involved and they are offering me a settlement. first of all it is not that big of a deal to me, money is money. we have done ok without the settlement, and we will do fine without it. now to my point. yesterday my wonderful husband says to me " well legally you know that money is mine" because the car was in his name. well now i am ticked off because i never wanted to keep anything from him. as a matter of fact i was thinking about what he might need. it is only money, i dont understand why he would come at me the way he did with the legal stuff. my feelings are hurt and i am angry because i thought we were better than that.

Answer 1

i'm sorry......he's acting like a jerk.....and tell him that if your married its not just his......i'd be upset too.......the accident wasn't your fault and he has no right telling you to not go somewhere.......but legally whether the car was in his name or not the money is both yours and his.....and in my opinion you and your son should have a special treat first as your the ones that got hit......

Answer 2

Your husband is being an a$$. Everything happens for a reason. He can argue that you were hit because you went, but the fact of the matter is, who is to say you would not have gone to the grocery store and been hit. Why it happened is neither here nor there....it happened and that's it. AS for his comment, the settlement does not go to the car, it goes to the person or persons injured in the accident. Their insurance should have fixed your car, so the settlement is for your costs incurred due to injuries.

Answer 3

I can understand why your ticked off, I would be if my husband had done and said those things to me. First he should have been more concerned about you, as his wife and his son. Money should have only been discussed after everyone was okay and everyone was calm. No, it isn't just his money. It doesn't matter who owns the car, you are his wife and it goes 50/50, I would wonder why the money meant more to him than me. He could have been just upset at the time and once he has cooled off it may be different, if not I should would rethink why he acts this way. Glad you and your son weren;t hurt.

Answer 4

Sweetie, the money you recieve from a injury is your money . I do not care if the vehicle was in his name only. Out the money in an account in your name only. I made that mistake and he had the account all drawn up in both our names when I got the check. A year later he moved out to be with his girlfriend and had to fight for my money. It would not have even been part of the settlement, if I had not had his name on it . I did the same thing with my inhertiance from my mother, but his name on it a like a dumb. Don't if it is your inhertance if it is your money from an injury put it in your name only. If you want to buy him something do that but don't use all of it on him. He would not return the deed. I know that too , my ex had two inhertance and never let me know anything or one dime of any of that money. He also got a large settlement from a drug company I never saw a dime.

Answer 5

Firstly, that $ does not belong to him. Case in point: I was driving my sister's car. Was pulled by the police, and got ticketed for not having valid tags...but the car wasn't even mine! Cop says: too bad, you're driving it, you're responsible. So in your case - YOU were hit, YOU get the settlement.

Although, I do hear you when you say that the $ isn't important to you...as it wouldn't be to me either. Talk to your husband and see if you can find out why it was such a big deal that you not go to the movies. Maybe his reasoning as something to do with his jerkish behavior now.

I would give up the $....because I'm dumb (as my sister would say)...but for me... I would give it to him just because I don't need it. Let him be who he is and do as he wants with it and don't expect a thing in return.

He's trying to mess up your head, because he can't clean up the mess in his own. Don't take responsibility for that. I think by you giving up the $ is wiping your hands clean of the situation altogether. This way, if he wants to bring it back up, he can then take full responsibility of the outcome!

Good luck!

Answer 6

first of all he should have been very sympathetic in your being in an accident and how badly it must have scarred you. your husband is being very selfish in the way he is acting, childish even. i think you need to tell him that what he said about the car being his is just unacceptable...my car is in my name and mu husbands in his, but the cars are ours because we are married and we share everything together and thats how it should be. dont ever think that just because an item is in thier name you shouldent use it or its not your. unless your in a divorce, and thats different. i would let him know how bad he hurt you. good luck! and im sorry you were in an accident. those are scarey!

Answer 7

He sounds like my husband but different scenerio. About 2 months ago, I asked him to go to the store for me. It was about 10:30pm at night and he was reluctant to go. When he got back home and was reversing the truck back into the driveway, he hit the fence. I never heard the end of it. He said it was my fault because I sent him to the store so I had to pay $1,500 to get it fixed and repainted. Men (like them) are jerks.

Answer 8

is there a good reson why didnt your husband let you go to the movies? i think you have the choice to or not, but listen to reason you ot at the same time. in my religion (Islam): the womens money is her money, but the husbands money is THERE money. when he said " well legally you know that money is mine", thats greed talking....

Answer 9

I can't believe the behavior of that man, and i use that term loosely. What a jerk! Didn't it matter that you and/or could have possibly been seriously hurt? Tell him to take the money and pay for a divorce attorney!

Answer 10

Your husband is right if it was you that hit the other car they would be after your husband to collect. just give him the money and everything will be rosie.