does anyone else get feelings for their bosses?

Question

OK- so it doesn't matter where I work or who I work for, I have been having trouble lately with getting feelings for my boss. I am married and don't think I could ever bring my self to do anything like cheat on my husband, but the thoughts won't go away. Do you daydream about what would happen if... you started to cuddle or make out? what that would feel like? It's not normal, I know!!! I want it to go away! What now???

Answer 1

Seems you women love authority figures.

Answer 2

It's happened to me twice in my life. The first time I made the mistake of telling a co-worker and it got around to the entire job. That turned out badly. So whatever you do don't ever tell anyone at work. The second time I relocated 1 year later to another state because a better position came up. I was really glad about that because that boss was too fine girlfriend. Now I work for all men except 1 woman and thankfully, I'm not attracted to any of them. I'm in love with a man who loves me more. So here are the steps to take.

1- Never tell anyone at work how you feel about your boss
2- Do something with your husband that will turn you both on
3- Make sure you delete all of your history and cookies in your computer because you never know who's monitoring what. I'm at work too. Now let us both get back to work! LOL! Have a great day!

Answer 3

This may not sound pretty, but it seems that you are infachuated(spelling?) with your supervisor. To be honest, It sounds to me like it is affected your work. You need to be careful in this kind of perdicament. If you don't handle this problem correctly, you could complaints filed against your or worse, lose your job, or worse your husband might find out and not be happy with you or your work environment. The best advice that I can give to you is that you start to look for a different job. It may not be a combfortable decision to make at first, but to me, it would be better to lose my job rather than my spouse.

The only other thing you might be able to do, is go to your husband and ask him for advice. That is what you married him for, for you to be there for him and vic versa. Yeah, you might be self-incriminating yourself, but you don't have to tell him about the daydreams. You could just say, "Dear, I've been thinking about a job change. There is a nice guy at work, but he has been getting a bit distracting. What would you suggest that I do?" That is all you would have to say. Now your husband might get upset or agitated, but he will appreciate that you came to him with your problem and asked him for his help. This shows that you care for him and not that guy at work.

Take my advice or leave it. Either way, I see that your marraige, your job, or both could be at risk here.

Answer 4

Well, yes, I've had feelings towards bosses in the past, but unlike yours, they've been of the hostile sort, and not romantic! You spend so much of your waking hours at work, that it's natural to develop strong bonds with people. But you acknowledge you'd never cheat on your husband, so a little daydreaming doesn't harm anyone.

Answer 5

Funny, I was very attracted to an old boss I had. He even lived on the same street as my ex-husband when we were dating. I split up with my husband because of our lack of a sexual relationship. Three weeks later, I ran into my old boss and now we have been living together for 6 months.
Anyway, it seems to me that it is normal to have feelings for your boss. You spend a lot of time together, get to know one another. Just because you are married, doesn't mean that you are only going to have fantasies about your husband. I don't think you should worry about it to much unless it starts to interfere with your relationship. Men aren't the only ones allowed to dance around w/sexual thoughts. I say if you enjoy
thinking about him, go for it. Just keep it to your self, and don't let it become a reality.

Answer 6

I have the same feelings for YOU...come in to my office right now!!!