Why do I feel sad and lonely after I sleep with my husband?

Question

Sometimes he'll try to cuddle but I just feel distance afterwards. Like what I have to give is gone and now I have nothing.

Answer 1

I'd like it better if your question were more specific. Do you mean literally sleep, such that you feel sad and lonely the next morning when you wake up? If so, it's probably because he went to work and you miss him.

On the other hand, if you mean "sleep" = "have sex" then the cause is probably quite different. In this case, the most likely reason is that you feel like it was just a sex act for your husband, not an act of love and intimacy. If so, the cure is to tell him how you feel and ask him to cuddle and talk with you for awhile after sex.

In the future, please remember that you're more likely to get helpful answers if you provide some detail -- at least enough to make your question clear.

Answer 2

Girl, sit down and do some soul searching first. What is it that you find lacking in your relationship. Did you always feel this way or has this happened just recently? What did you have before that you don't have right now? Is he working longer hours for your comfort and you fail to notice this? Are you burdened with child rearing that you feel tired when you get to bed? Too many chores to go relax during the weekend?

When you think you know the answer, talk to him. Ask him if he feels the same way too.

Take time oout from your responsibilities and have fun together. Leave the kids with a sitter and go out on a date. Ask grandma to stay with them while you go out for a weekend honeymoon.

I feel you are sad because you don't have time to be happy. Plan a vacation away from it all.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It doesn't appear as though you are meant to be together, or you'd feel this connection. How long have you been married? Any kids? Is he absent a lot? Do you find interest in other men? You should view these things and honestly answer to determine your next step. E-mail me if you like, I'll try to help all I can.

Answer 4

Only you can answer that question.
Here are some suggestions as why you feel that way.
There is no love in your love making.
You are not being treated the way you need to be.
He isn't giving you what you need.
Talk to him about how you feel.
Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I'm in the exact some situation, and it's because I know our relationship isn't what it's supposed to be. Sex is supposed to bring you together and literally make more love between you. When it doesn't, it's just sad, and lonely.

Answer 6

Only YOU can answer that question.
If you feel sad and lonely after you sleep with him...is it because you're not having sex with him..? or after the sex ...you just feel alone?? and sad ?? You need to dig deep within and find the answer to your question, then talk to your husband and tell him how you're feeling?? If he has sex with you then rolls over and it's like you're room mates*...you don't feel the 'closeness' a couple should have..then you need to tell your husband this is how i'm feeling*
GOODLUCK*

Answer 7

Aww i understand how that feels , but with me its because i dont trust him as he cheated so i feel like i need to put up barriers . Dont know if maybe youve been hurt too hun and maybe thats why or has he distanced himself from you, you should talk with him and see if you can work it out,

Answer 8

Because love making is more than just "doing the act." You want to feel loved and nurtured. You probably are just going through the motions which is not satisfying.

Answer 9

either you feel that the two of you don't have a special connection any longer or that you don't feel that there is anything left between the two of you.....sometimes women just get down and depressed because they feel like they are satisfied sexually but the are not emotionally satisfied...maybe that is it....good luck

Answer 10

Sex generally causes the release of endorphins.... which are supposed to make you happy and calm.... maybe you are not achieving an O. Try artificial stimulation.