If your boyfriend took you out and got drunk and then met up with a friend of his. They then drank themselves stupid and the end result was your partner got paranoid and accused you of fancying a friend of his and threatened to attack you with a glass in a pub with people all around you. Then he told you to move house as he would hurt you and threatened your family. Then left you to walk home alone at 1 am . The next day it was all apologies and said it was the drink. This happened to a friend of mine and she accepted him back. Your opinion please
2007-04-03 00:21:03 · 6 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes it's easier to accept an apology than to break up with someone.
Drink affects everyone differently. Now that he knows he's a violent drunk, he should never get that drunk again. Is he going to make sure he never gets that drunk again? I doubt it. Even if he's truly sorry, and it *was* purely the drink, I'd always worry what would happen if he got that drunk again.... or if he got more drunk.
Personally, I think drink brings out a side of us we don't show in every day life. I think he's got a latent violent streak in him that's waiting to come out.
If I was your friend I would take a break from him. I think he sounds like a dangerous guy - but I don't know him. I think your friend should find someone who can control himself when he is drunk. Ask her to consider this - would an apology be acceptable if next time he did smash her in the face with a glass? Would an apology be acceptable if he killed her? No, an apology would be too late.
Show your friend the responses from this question and advise her to find someone who is more in control. My boyfriend gets very drunk from time to time but would never make a threat like that, because he's a good guy. All guys are different, and unfortunately for her, he sounds like one of the bad ones.
xx Emmie
2007-04-03 00:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man cannot behave after taking some drinks and become violent, he is not a gentleman.. Although he apologized the next day, believe me this episode is going to take place again and again.. Are you up to it? Accepting this on and on.. If you cannot, leave him now and wait for a real gentleman to start a relationship with you.
2007-04-03 07:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN, RUN like h***. This is a story from my life. It just gets worse, and worse each time he you let him treat you badly. Men like this are very dangerous. Eventually they are hitting you. He just wants control over you. Tell her that she needs to get away before he becomes obsessive about everything you do. The drinking is no excuse for disrespecting a girlfriend or a boyfriend!
After a year or so, mine started taking a gun to my head when he was drinking, and got jealous. Please show this to her. I almost died!
2007-04-03 07:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very needy to tolerate this behavior. He clearly has a drinking problem and he needs her to be weak so he can drink and have a relationship with her. If she would not tolerate this he would have to get better or lose her. I would encourage your friend to attend ALANON meetings to help her cope with his behavior.
2007-04-03 07:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously thunk u suld get away from him.No guy wuld ever do that if they really loved you,they would at least have self control.
2007-04-03 11:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by hot_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your friends choice.
2007-04-03 07:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by exo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋