I fell out with my close female friend-we didn't speak for 4 months.(We got too close-I wanted a break,never a couple)We have patched things up slightly(she said we are still friends) and are barely on speaking terms!Only communicate via email-rarely though!
1.Her best friend has recently got in touch with me via Facebook-she wanted to add me as her friend! Considering that I fell out with her BEST MATE - IS THIS ODD?
We've exchanged 3 emails in a few hours, asking me how I am, what I'm upto - also suggested we can all meet up in a group and she said it'll be good to catch up! Her mate that I fell out with wasn't mentioned once!(Am sure she knows everything that happened bwt me and her mate).I hardly know her mate!(ONLY SPOKE TWICE!)
2.Why get in touch now? WHY WOULD HER MATE WANT INFO ABOUT ME-HOPING I MENTION HER?
3.Why is she being friendly/nice towards me - WHILE HER MATE (the one I fell out with) DON'T SPEAK TO ME???
2007-04-02 23:54:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
THE QUESTION IS ABOUT HER MATE-NOT THE ONE I FELL OUT WITH!
It's one thing to add someone to facebook-but another to start private emails bwt us! Wouldn't you agree?
Should I remain the contact?
2007-04-02 23:56:42 · update #1
It's difficult to say whether your friends "friend" may be "up to something" but yes, it does seem a little strange that she suddenly wants to start e-mailing & even making plans to meet up with you......adding you as a friend is not such a big deal on it's own but considering who she is & whom she knows quite well, then yes! I'd be wondering the same as you.
You can either ask her outright but chance coming over as a little paranoid or you can just meet up & take it from there,
She may be trying [on your mutual friends behalf] to find out how you feel towards her & the fallout situation. If you decide to meet I'd take it very slowly & be very careful what's said, you'll soon know her intentions when she starts to talk [if your mutual friend comes easily into the conversation]
When you talk of meeting up as a group does that involve the mutual friend or not, if not......Would it be a problem do you think for your mutual friend if you were to meet up with this girl? if so & her feelings are paramount, you may wish to reconsider.
I get the feeling though that she may be attempting to act as a go between.....either with or without the consent of her best mate.......it's up to you whether you're cool with that or not.......
Anyway, good luck honey & hope things soon fall into place again.
2007-04-03 01:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making way too much out of this situation. There are only 2 reasons that she may want to get in touch with you. One is to spy for her friend. The other is because she likes you regardless of how her friend feels. Just don't say anything bad about the ex-friend and there won't be any trouble.
2007-04-03 00:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best way to find out the truth or at least get another clue to your curiosity is to be blunt with her "mate," and ask her why she's talking to you out of the ordinary. See what she says. Does this have anything to do with........? Is a good approach. Or, I think it's kind of odd that you're talking to me all of a sudden. Isn't it wierd that......... is your best friend and yhat you're talking to me?
2007-04-03 00:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the mate has a crush on you? Maybe she feels you are a good friend and wants to start a friendship. Maybe the one you had a falling out with does not speak to her either!!!! lol
2007-04-03 00:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ruby C 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This isn't as confusing as you make it out to be. So you added her as a freind...big deal! Just because you and the other person had a falling out, doesn't mean you can't be freinds with who ever you want. It sounds to me like you may have a crush on this new friend, that's why you're feeling guilty. Do what you want to do and stop being so worried about it...that is ridiculous to stress yourself over a little thing like this.
2007-04-03 00:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
ur paraniod i add ppl hu are my m8s m8s hu i dnt relli no its just a thing she just wanted more friends spotted u and new u were familiar stop being soooo paranoid
2007-04-02 23:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by indiebbz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not bother. Move on mate.
2007-04-02 23:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why bother posting the same question when you ignored some sound good advice last time you asked it?
2007-04-03 09:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
dont write a book for us to read be short and procise that way we can help - we arent here to read your life story
2007-04-03 00:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
repeat questions! what is up with you people??
2007-04-02 23:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋