i am 23 years old and i love a girl whch she is 25
she has a job and i am still in the uni
and i need about 2 more years to be ready when i told her that i want to marry her she said that she would say yes if i am older than that and she wont wait till i am ready coz she had an ex who made her to wait and left her with another girl so she made a decision that she will never wait for someone,
she said that its not good for a woman to marry someone younger than her is tht true??
we really love each others and we share good times but sort of friends not as lovers but i really love her and she knows
and she loves me as well but today she told me to drop it coz of the age.....and only the age..all what is in her mind is the woman feels bad when she finds her self getting old with a younger man she is 25 and i am 23.. so if anyone can answer me or help me is it ok ?or is it bad or what but u should all know that i love her so much..what should i do,thx
2007-04-02 21:06:43 · 14 answers · asked by Y! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
k here is ur problem, she trying to see if u are mature enough to say f*** the age and the age only. what it sounds like is she is challenging you. she want to see how much you really love her. so she makes up a stupid age thing. honestly are you going to buy that? if so them maybe ur not really ready for her. what im saying is sit her down tell her how you feel, if she starts to talk about the age thing tell her to stop playing the highschool games. this is the real world. just cause you 2 years apart doenst mean s***, really who goes around asking ppl there age and what not!?? Look man if you love her tell her. If she shoots you down atleast you tryed and now you what kinda of picky person she is. i bet she will never find a guy like you that is older nor the same age, that is because u are who u are and if she cant see that, im telling you, you dont want that. well bro good luck and hopefully she is smart about this. cause ur 1 in a million.
2007-04-02 21:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is an excuse. Two years age difference is not a reason to break up a relationship. She may be afraid of falling into the same trap twice. If she is, then there is not much that you can do other than to tell her that you love her. If she leaves anyway, then just hope that she does not find someone else until you are ready to make that commitment.
On the other hand, maturity level can be a serious problem. Is she much more mature than you? Are you constantly bringing up the age issue? Are you a very jealous person? There may be other underlining reasons for her not to wait for you. She may not want to tell you because she is afraid of hurting your feelings.
A long talk with some very pointed questions should tell you what you need to know. Good Luck!!
2007-04-02 21:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to starte off she does not love you and you need to move on. If she told you that she will not marry someone under her age then there you go. She more then likely will toy with you. Well it will only hurt you in the end cause she did tell you that it was not a go for you to. So find someone that will make you happy. I know it will be hard but why stay there is no happy ending with you guys only hard ones.
Hay you sound like a nice guy so you probably have gurls coming from all sides
Hope you the best
2007-04-02 21:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by yomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't much of a big difference in your age...I think she is more concerned about the fact that you're still a student and she's already working (altho she's not verbalizing it). I'm sorry your girl feels strongly about the age factor coz really it's no big deal. There are a lot of successful marriages where the women are older. But there's nothing we can do if that's her way of thinking. You have to respect and accept her decision. The age thing will always be there - she's not going to change her mind. You have to move on. Good luck.
2007-04-02 21:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by tin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm older then husband by almost 7 years!
hell he's finishing up his PH.D dissertations four to be exact and then plans on continuing what he doe's a a freelance system designer and engineer for electronics devices!
He works at home and makes more money then I do and I'm a MD specialist in physician therapy medicines!
I make a very good wage, and will make partner in two years at medicinal group!
We are just fine and he love me, I would suggest that you find this woman you love tell her you love her and propose MARRIAGE!, tell her it only Have 70 or 80 years to make her happy and that's no where near the time you need so you have to get started now!
Husband used that one on me and I love him for it!
She may not love you though and if thats the case it will be good to know so you can have closure in you life!
2007-04-02 21:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is love to you? , do u take it to the level of secrifice, i mean r u ready to do what ever it takes to make the relationshp work, or u r only in it for sex ?
cause if u r only in it caues u r afraid of letting go, thinking that no one will satisfay u the way she does u r wrong, thats why u should be older than her in the first place , else take a little bit of what u felling and a big of what is rite u knwo it , caue no one can be the best solver besides u, besides life is all about taking risks know how to minimize the rest, the rest u have to struggle wether u do make the perfect one or not .
2007-04-02 21:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Another day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear
In my opin there's no harm if the love is true one. One or two years above on either side has no meaning if both are in true love. If the love between u both u marry and enjoy ur life. What defficiency is there will b fulfilled with the passing of time. ok
2007-04-02 21:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by kamal k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLOOO the age difference is only two years!!! That is NOTHING, believe me! You guys both seem mature and there is no reason for this relationship to not work out. Everything will be fine, and you should have no doubts because relationships like those are super common. It's only two years.... remember that.... that's really not a big deal. Don't worry!! Just be happy with her:)
2007-04-02 21:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by xlunax 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah its ok but if she loves u and can wait for u that fine and if she find out another guy then forget her coz she will never come to u just wait for her response dont make it hurry friendly advice u will get another girl
2007-04-03 00:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Tabish H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number!!! and yous are onli 2 years apart, its not going to hurt any1 is it??? yous are in love so go for it, if she truly loves you then its going to happend!!!
peAce xoxoxo
2007-04-02 21:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by mysterious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋