you are heading for disaster. My dad was unhappily married to my mum. He later married the lady he had dated whilst be married to my mum. We were all the happier in the end.
2007-04-02 20:32:22 · 14 answers · asked by Flower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad was treated badly by my mother. And don't worry, she was selfish too. She put everything else before the family. She is married again.
2007-04-02 21:00:03 · update #1
Because marriage in a holy Union. No one is happy in a marriage that is full of fighting and incompatibility, but adding dishonesty is not an answer.
If they were not happy divorce Then finding someone new is appropriate. Dishonestly is never a good thing.. and defiantly not something you want to pass to your children. They learn by example.
2007-04-02 20:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by seakentruth 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People who have affairs are cowards. If you're unhappily married, get a divorce. It's more respectful to that. You say all of you were happier in the end, but how did your mom feel when she found out about your dad's affair? You can't possibly tell me she was ecstatic.
Sometimes, people marry the wrong person or grow apart. You respected one another enough to get married, so why not respect each other enough to communicate. I never dated a married person out of respect for their spouse. There's no point in causing drama to date someone. It's ridiculous.
I know people who have gone through your situation. I say the heart wants what it wants, but there's a better way to go about it without hurting people in the process.
2007-04-02 20:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like several other have said, because you are starting out with someone who has broken a trust, by cheating, and this is a huge barrier to creating a relationship because both of you know that building real trust in it is an uphill battle.
At best, he is not going to feel trustworthy until he has had enogh time, and opportunities to prove to himself that he is. You will also need a lot of time and proof to overcome the knowledge he was capable of breaking trust at least once.
At worst he is a cheater at heart, and cheaters cheat, and most don't have the will to change. You may never be able to be sure about his commitment to you, and in lacking that certainty, push him away.
2007-04-02 20:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by unpolarized 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because many more times than not, the married person has no intentions of leaving their spouse for the one they're cheating with. They're just having their cake and eating it too. It causes problems for all people involved.
In my opinion, if one partner isn't happy in the marriage, either try to work it out or get a divorce first before seeing anyone else. Cheating isn't going to solve anything.
2007-04-02 20:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Leila G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you date a married man you are being unethical. It makes you look like a sleezy person and a home wrecker. When someone is married other people should respect that committment and stay away. Messing with a married man means you have no respect for yourself or him. And what makes you think you will be the only one this married guy is messing with. You won't be the first and you won't be the last that this guy has mesed with. And if he's going to cheat on his wife with you that means he will do the same to you by messing around with someone else.
2007-04-02 20:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And you don't hate your dad for cheating on your mother,do you no you have a 60% chance of cheating on your spouse thanks to your dad.You say we were all happier in the end, your dad hurt your mother how in God's name can she be happy by your dad happiness now. Your dad is a cheat and a liar just ask your mum.
2007-04-02 20:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called cheating and, there are security issue that never got resolved!
You blow it by giving the end result first, your trying to get approval
by supporting a position in a 3rd party situation that occurred!
WELL I WONT ENABLE YOU!
I CHEATED ON MY FIRST HUSBAND, I'M A CHEATER, YOU'LL BE A CHEATER TOO IF YOU GO THROUGH WITH YOUR ACT OF SELFISHNESS!
Stop being self centered and start think of other people for once in your life!
2007-04-02 20:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because your a HOME WRECKER! don't push a divorce, what makes you think that it wouldn't happen to you.
If your marriage was started out with dirty laundry and bad karma, then more then likely it will end in the same way or similar! Not every story has a good ending! Let the marriage dissolve its self don't feed it !
2007-04-02 20:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by brandy5474 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's probably because most married men who stray with someone else often return home because they miss family.
Personally...I think practically everybody has the desire for happiness with a partner who is also happy being with us. But because of financial and emotional insecurity...we "hold on for one more day" hoping our life situation will suddenly IMPROVE!
2007-04-02 20:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by argytunes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
CHEAT - that's the word. You can cushion it however you like...if your dad was so unhappy with your mom why was he still married to her. It shouldn't have taken another women- he should have been man enough NOT to humiliate and dishonor a woman that he (at one time "loved")...You should deal with your problems before you find others to drag with you.
2007-04-02 20:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋