2007-04-02 18:23:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for them.
Let them vent to you.
Share your experience ... your words... your advice.
Just lend them an ear.
2007-04-02 18:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a spouse or family problem, be supportive. Be there for them so they have you to talk to. Tell them that you're there for them any time they need to talk and say comforting things to them. Encourage them that things will get better soon.
Offer advice ONLY if they ask for it but don't expect them to follow it. They just need a shoulder to cry on so to speak.
If it's a finacial problem they are having do the same. If they find themselves without a roof over their head, offer to take them in and live with you til they can get back on their feet.
It's ok to give them money but not ok to expect them to repay you. That's what good friends do.
If you give a friend a LOAN (not a gift), you would be angry at your friend if they could not pay it back. That is often the case and many friendships have been destroyed as a result of it. All because of money.
If you're well off, then I would help your friend with gifts of money to help them get their life back in order but only if you can afford it.
If you don't have that kind of money, help by trying to find your friend work, etc. Maybe live with you for a couple of months if his problem is THAT bad.
I know you'll do the right thing. You sound like a good friend. I can tell because you are concerned.
2007-04-02 18:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to help a friend who is having a hard time are to always check up on them call them more often .. ask how they're doing.. send emails to have a good day at work/school etc. or send greeting cards to support them let 'em know im here for them. i also take them out a lot more. .. to eat, walks, i try to get their mind on something other than the issue. its time like these that i remind my friends how much i care for them and the meaning of friendship! good luck!
2007-04-02 18:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
following are some of the steps that will help u deal with a person who is going through a tough time:
1 never leave the person alone. always be by his/her side, even if this means comforting him/her in the middle of the night.
2 always empathize with the person and never sympathize.
3 make the person feel loved, wanted and cared for.
4 assure him/her that u will be always there for him/her.
5 make the person believe that this is too a passing phase of life.
6 offer ur shoulder for him/her to cry on.
7 tell him/her that he/she is strong enough to deal with the situation.
8.convince him/her that we all go through tough times and he/she is not the only one who is confronted with such a problem.
2007-04-04 18:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by simon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to be there to listen to his problems will help so much more than you can realize, I know this because I go thru this a lot myself.
Without my special friend to listen I feel sometimes I would be so lost. Lately he is very busy and doesn't really want to hear about my problems and sometimes I feel like I am so alone. But like I said, this is one of the best things you can do for your friend is just sat and listen.
2007-04-02 18:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot depends on what kind of hard time they are having..you might lead them to someone that can help.......give advice if needed and just be there for them...it is hard to answer when i do not know what the problem is...being there for a person is really good and showing that you do care about their problem...
2007-04-02 18:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What hard times?
2007-04-02 18:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by dog_hell_red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen and let them vent. Sometimes people just want to vent to someone so they can release some emotion, not because they want your advice. Listen to your friend, then ask if they want your opinion. Then take it from there and act accordingly. Good luck.
2007-04-02 18:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by notarycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for them. even if they act like they don't want you there, sometimes people hide it inside and dont want other people to know how much they are really hurting. don't be afraid to let them know that your there for them. tell them that and then live up to it. just let them know you'll always be there, no matter what. and when they're ready to talk, listen! that right there is the most important thing you can do, is listen to them. sometimes theres not much that you can do to help them, but letting them know you truly honstly care someimtes thats all it taeks
2007-04-02 18:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there with no advice or opinions unless asked. Listen, and let your friend vent and talk it out. Just be there! Having a friend to just be there is so valuable.
2007-04-02 18:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't give them money. Because more than likely this isn't their first hard time, and it won't be their last. Give them support, help them when they need an extra hand, but don't give them cash.
2007-04-02 18:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋