How do you feel if your mother-in-law ask his son to bear a child with other woman, because for 2 yrs. she had

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no GRANDCHILD yet.

Answer 1

Well on the one hand it's a ridiculous request and maybe laughter is the best medicine. On the other hand she has just directly attacked the sanctity of your marriage and the importance of your marriage vows/committment to each other.

I'm assuming your husband is a good man and sane, and isn't even remotely entertaining the idea. If I were him I'd point out to her that she'd attacked my marriage and insulted our marriage for nothing better than her own selfishness, and that she owed both me and my wife a heartfelt apology. I would express sadness at the shortsightedness of her opinion and that as a result if we did have children in the future I would seriously mistrust whether she should have any exposure to them at all as her values are so far away from anything I wanted my children exposed to.

I'd be angry and very sad, to answer your question.

Answer 2

I guess you are in a non-western country or have had a non-western upbringing.

If the expectation of your extended family is that you have children as soon as possible, then there is little you can do to make them happy if you don't. They will keep nagging about it.

In some cultures it is very important to pass bloodlines with two generations present (parents and grandparents). It raises the community standing of the grandparent (especially grandmothers).

Is your culture adapated from one where multiple wives used to be common? If so then this is why the mother-in-law says for him to do this... because under old customs if a child wasn't born within a year a second wife was taken. She would have children and the first wife runs the household.

Its something the MIL will have to learn to live with.
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Answer 3

Now I was told once that it never hurt anybody to want. The biggest thing I see here is not wth your mil but whats your husband going to do? If he honors her request then youve got a big problem besides having married a mommas boy. Just tell your mil that youre working on it and leave it at that and that should shut her up for awhile. Good luck

Answer 4

First look at your husband to see what he answers!!
Once he tells his mom that she's crazy for thinking something like that, I would then walk up to her and punch her in the mouth for disrespecting me!! that'll keep her from asking any more stupid questions!!
I have a mother in law that says stupid things too...
Good Luck

Answer 5

so she wants her son to commit adultery [against God's law] so then God can bless her with a grandchild?? and also the child would have no married parents, she has selfishness down to a science.

Answer 6

It would depend on the situation, if you cannot have children and your MIL suggested a sarrogate mother, then that is one thing, but if she meant for him to sleep with someone else and you are still trying to have a baby, then hurt, confused and angry.

Answer 7

I think I'd feel like I was on Jerry Springer . . . your mother in law sounds like an evil, nasty old cow!

Good luck with her! Hopefully you can put her into one of those corrupt nursing homes some time soon, ha ha! :)

Answer 8

Mother in law is nasty sick woman..
You husband should defend you and keep
her far away from you...
He should also stay away from the crazy old bat himself..

Answer 9

I'd laugh at her. That's just insane. Besides, her son doesn't owe his mother grand children.

Answer 10

mother in laws are unhappy jealous old bats who need to get a life, tell her to go play bingo or go to the casino before you admit her to a nursing home