Why can't people just be themselves instead of trying to be someone they are not?

Question

with no offense i dislike people that try so hard to be someone else they are not, acting different with other people like a sick personality illness

Answer 1

I think everyone wants to feel like they fit in. Because of this sometimes people will act differently around different groups of people. Sometimes in younger people, they just haven't really discovered their true selves yet and they are tryng out different things. Some people don't like themselves and want to be like someone else so they take on someone elses style or behaviors. I really think it's a matter of low self esteem and trying to find their place and their true selves.

Answer 2

Well, that's certainly annoying, but in truth none of us are really 'ourselves'. We've all been socialized, and we can't get away from that. We often lose relationship with our own emotions and feelings and even our empathy for other people in order to have relationships with others. Perhaps when we are embarrassed of someone else's behavior it's because it's something we most fear might happen to us. We can sometimes offer a radical critique of ourselves and our socialization when we question things around us that even we take for granted. But we are always co-creating our lives with others through the stories we tell and reshape with each other. Narrative is radical, creating us at the very moment it is being created. Our friends and family help us form accounts, create plots and build theories of events, but not just any plots and theories. The events we describe in our narratives are evaluated according to community or group concepts of appropriate, sense making, and common ideas about what is rational and moral. What does your group find appropriate, and is it better than what other groups and people find appropriate? How do you know? Can you define yourself as separate from the narratives you have co-created with others?

Answer 3

People have a natural desire to be accepted. In general we all fear rejection. its not a pleasant feeling. So those who have been rejected for who they are, turn to being someone they are not in hopes of acceptance. Nobody really likes fakers but if humans nature weren't so cruel half the time then people wouldnt' feel the need to be someone they are not. And some people just aren't happy with who they are. so instead of putting forth the effor in becoming the person they want to be, they fake it.

Answer 4

Basically people who are insecure, people who are not sure of what it is they want, and who are thus confused. It appears that the "attacks" come and go, at least in the few I have seen. They suddenly take flights of fancy, and become another person altogether!!!! I guess it's not their fault, as they probably have no control over the "traits" they exhibit, but I suppose the best way to deal with such people is to tell them at the point of their behavioural change that it's not becoming them to behave this way in as nice a way as possible way, so as not to aggravate them.

Answer 5

sometimes people are just trying to make someone else happy by being someone else for that other person. i mean what do you do when someone you love can't stand you? You try to play a role right? oh, wait a sec, you have to hold your head up and walk away!!

Answer 6

Well it's sometimes a way to excape reality.Some do it in fear,if i am who i really am no one will like me.Sometimes it's easier to pretend cuz that way you can hide many horrible things that happened to you in the past.,sort of to protect themselves from rejecton,criticism,etc.it's a scape goat,andsometimes not the best healthy way,cuz sometimes acting a way makes ppl hide certain feelings and in the end it could turn deadly.

Answer 7

being someone else is part of their personality trait, so if you if you think about it they are being themselves at that point in time anyway.

every person on this planet is driven by fear, so EVERYONE puts up an act, so people are doing their very best with being what they believe is right at that time.

Answer 8

some people aren't sure of who they are yet, so they're very influential and will do whatever they have to do to feel like they fit in. don't be too hard on them, i'm sure they feel pretty insecure if they act that way.

Answer 9

these people are lack of confident or self-esteem..they are always thinks people see them as a 'nothing'. they do not realize that their natural personality can help them in this real world. if they try to be somebdy to develop themselves better and happy with it, i think it's worth for them..

Answer 10

These people usually have low self esteem. They want to fit in........be accepted by the people they hang around with (or wish to). They will grow into themselves eventually...........we hope.