Lets say that We've met in our hard times,Me, being separated and Him, recently broke up with his X.1st 6 months of being friends, he s so mean to me...but I accept all that coz love him.soo much. He even like shout at me over the phone and told me straight he loves hs X.But he calls me evryday.HE even cry to me if he cant take the pain n his heart. Although Hurts killing me, i stay as a friend, he knows i love him...But then,,,time came that i have to leave coz i feel like im used.He dont love me but he cant let me go...he wish for me but im not in his heart...I didnt call him for more than a month,then, he start emailing me,calling me even in my office,telling me and begging me to call him.to answer his emails and calls,,,but i act like cold..but since i love him, after a few weeks i talk to him, he says I miss you...then start of our everyday conversation again.I know he stil luv his X but he cant let me go.....
2007-04-02 17:19:57 · 13 answers · asked by Mikaella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't be used.. He is making use of you!!! Get him off your life and you move on... Be smart!!
2007-04-02 17:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot let you go because you are making it to easy for him. He knows he can run to you if him an is ex are not working out and you will be there with open arms. Trying to do everything to please him so he won't go, trying to make him love you because you treat him so good when he does come around.
He will never be what and how you want him to be as long as he still loves his ex. No matter what you do or say and whatever he tells you he will not be loyal to you. You are enabling him by letting him come around you knowing how he feels about her. He is using you for whatever reason. Cut him out of your life, you should not want a man who wants someone else. Weigh the good and the bad. Sounds like he does not respect you. You have to respect yourself enough not to get caught up in that drama.
2007-04-02 17:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre being used here. Hes definitely not over his ex and is only seeking a female to help get over her. Its way too early for him to get involved emotionally or romantically or any other way with another female. He can say all he wants to but the truth is hes still attached to his ex and youre foolish to think he will ever come to you. You dont need this guy at all and can do much better. Tell him to fix his problems and maybe someday on down the road, things could happen but no way now. He cant have his cake and eat it too here so move on for your sanity. Good luck
2007-04-02 17:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, cutting him off is the best thing to do for him, and it's certainly the best thing to do for you.
Write him a letter telling him you don't hate him but love him, but realize that the best thing for both of you is for there to be no contact.
He loves his ex and either needs to repair that relationship or move on and find someone else... but NOT you. His actions should have ruled him out as a reasonable candidate for you, the chaos he brings to you is not worth it.
Letting go of him will be hard, but you never really had his heart in the first place and trying to pretend it isn't so is just going to bring you both more pain.
Plus, it's the right thing to do. Good luck to you, I know it won't be easy, but remember you deserve better; someone who can give you all of their heart.
2007-04-02 17:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a shot. In normal circumstances it takes most people up to "2" years to get over a bad relationship or marriage and maybe why he treated you badly at first. Being it's around two years he's probably emotionally gotten over the other one. It's your life, go for it......
2007-04-02 17:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Theban 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he still loves his X so why are you bothering with him? He doesn't love you. He's just dependent on you. You are easy for him to run to and he knows you will take him back. Are you really willing to settle for being second best? Unless he's really over his X, you are nothing but a substitute for her.
2007-04-02 17:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and move on. Your always there for him. He hasn't cut the x out his life by this time, he never will. Move on to someone who is free and ready to meet and be with one woman, and he be with you. Wouldn't that make you happy? Someone who can be with you only, and not bring all the extra baggage into your relationship?
2007-04-02 17:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by tiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what business you are in but in the business I am in I can not have an affair with a client! Well maybe you are not in the kind of business I am in health care. You are setting your self up for a heartbreak again.
2007-04-02 17:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think you should associate with him anymore. If he shouts at you then obviously he doesn't love you. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is negative. He's still in love with his ex. Tell him you can't be friends with him anymore because it will only hurt you more.
2007-04-02 17:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what you should do girl is dump him before he does something you cant take!Listen to someone who did that before let me tell you it was not pretty it turns out that he was dating my best friend!!!!! i got soooooooooo mad that before i could think i dumped him because it was the right thing to do. So you do the right thing and dump him before he dumps you!!!
2007-04-02 18:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by fieryfairey13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋