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My family has never had a good family past and now I feel things have gotten worse. Every year, all my life, my father's had a new girlfriend. He has never really loved them. This year I'm in the 8th grade and during my spring break I had gone up to Crested Beutt, Colorado to snowbroard. Apperently on March 12, the day after I had left my father had got married to his girlfriend and didn't tell anyone. I didn't find this out unti 5 weeks later. What makes it worse is that his "wife" doesn't like me and she does mean terrible things to get between me and my father. When I was living with my father I was forced to play with her kids, I had to play what they wanted to play, I had to take them to the park when Kirsten didn't feel like it. Dad doesn't truelly lover her it's just like all the others where she'll bleed him dry and then leave. right now I'm torn I don't know how to deal with this large hand that life has delt to me. Someone please help me...

2007-04-02 17:00:34 · 8 answers · asked by Miss. TG 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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It sounds like your dad is using these "girlfriends" to try and forget your mother and hoping one will change his life around. Sort of a coping mechanism, if you will. If you stay with your mom, tell her you feel very uncomfortable going with dad and his new wife, and just as soon would rather stay with her. Its hard love but may be the only way to get thru to your dad that youre not comfortable around his new family and unless things change, youd just not rather be around them. Its hard for someone your age to be forced into babysitting when you really dont want to, but I dont think dad sees your side and its hard to explain this to him, but try the above and see hat happens. Youre not hating your dad by doing this, you just want to be treated like a young lady and not a professional babysitter. Good luck

2007-04-02 17:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0 0

There is nothing you can do, you should make sure someone knows, your grandmother's or grandfather's, from your mom and dad's side. Your uncle or aunt, cousin. The reason is they know you and more than likely can help better than someone out of the blue.
I know my husband had a problem with a women a long time ago and could not get rid of her, she was very mean. She finally did something and got arrested, some people are that way. Your dad should be more thankful to have a wonderful child like you, don't follow in his foot steps that will be your choice. I was the daughter of a boxer and he gave up his life to illness, so the boxer part I shall follow, and the giving up I will not.
I think at your age tell someone you trust.
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2007-04-03 00:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Firedogfire 3 · 0 0

Sorry to hear all this.. First off it sounds like your dad needs to grow up a little.. As for you dealing with dads issues.. Just try to accept his new wife. After all she is part of the family weather you like it or not. I know it will be hard beings you said she doesn't like you. Kill her with KINDNESS, it usually works every time.. Be polite , and then just go about your business.. I know you feel she has come between you and your father.. Always remember parents will never stop loving there kids. You can't be replaced but she can Your dad loves you believe me. She may try to put a wedge between you and your dad, just always be looking over your shoulder to protect yourself if shes that evil of a person.. good luck kid! :)

2007-04-03 00:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0 0

Stop taking all this on your shoulders. It's hard, but you need to find focus elsewere. My mom was the same as your dad most of the time. Just deal with it as best as you can, focus on school, so when you finally graduate, you can get a huge scholarship and become someone great. You can overcome a negative family history, I'm living proof.

2007-04-03 00:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 1 0

You can't control your fathers behavior, but you can tell him if his wife is not treating you right. Tell your mom too and see if she can talk to your dad about these issues. While spending time there, just try to respect her the best that you can, bide your time and then go home to your moms.

2007-04-03 00:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0 0

dear tori u got a really hard time but u have to servive it coz there is nothing to do u r a good girl so make ur attitude good to ur new mom and try to fulfill all her order and dont argue with her afer some year u will see she will like u a lot than ur father.

2007-04-03 07:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tabish H 2 · 0 0

omg..thats terrible first of all im SOO SORRY that that is happening to u.. but you need to confront your father and say how it bothers you and that u do NOT like his little wife in anyway and that u want to be treated better. tell him how u feel it will help i promise your father cares and loves u, you need to let him know..

good luck,God bless

2007-04-03 00:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by tiny&proud 2 · 0 0

You shouldn't have to deal with any of it! You need to tell your father how you feel. If things get really bad then avoid speaking to him for awhile.

2007-04-03 00:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0 0

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