Is it wrong to have sex with someone of the same sex one time to see if you like it?

Question

How about if you are in a committed relationship with someone else? Would you tell the other person?

Answer 1

It's wrong to cheat- don't EVER do it. It isn't fair to your partner at all. You either end the relationship, or get permission of your parnter- and think hard on how it's going to affect your relationship if you do get permission, because I can guarantee it's going to make a difference, no matter what you both say and think.

It's also wrong to have sex with someone who doesn't know that you're simply experimenting. If you're going to have this sex at all, you need to make sure the person you're with knows that you have no emotional connection to them and only want to use them, basically, as a representative member of the group that is "the same sex". If that person is cool with that, then right on. But don't use people as sexual guinea pigs- people deserve better treatment than that.

And, if I might add, if you're trying to figure out your sexual orientation, this really isn't the way to go about it. There are so many straight people who have awful first time sexual experiences- but that doesn't mean that heterosexual sex isn't for them. I wouldn't judge your sexual orientation based on a one-time experience with someone who doesn't mean that much to you- a better indicator is to look at your desires, or find someone of the same sex who you are truly ga-ga head over heels in love or lust for. Otherwise, who's to say that the reason you liked or didn't like the same-sex experience was the person, rather than the fact that it was same-sex? You know what I mean?

Anyhow, take care what you do. Don't hurt other people, especially the ones you love in your life.

Answer 2

1st ? Well you need to try having sex with same sex person to see if you'd like it,make sure the person you have sex with,knows it may be the only time,and go slow ,little touches to start with,till you both know your comfortable with each other. Also be very patient,and understanding with each other,honest,sincere. 2nd? If your in a committed relationship,I would talk quietly,and lovingly talk to them about it. (What do you think of same sexes making out.having sex? Depending on their answer(positive or negative )and when,who,why etc, you have sex with,and you believe you might enjoy it and continue, The other? is! How committed is your relationship! (maybe you want to continue the new same sex situation, and how often!. How open minded is your committed person/and are both of them willing to share you?(separatly) Other than these things I don't believe having sex 1time with same sex person is wrong.

Answer 3

If you're in a committed relationship and you're considering having sex with someone else, you are hardly committed. This is cheating, and you should consider entering couples counseling to figure out what's going on in your relationship, because things are not going well.

If you were single, it would be another matter, because that would depend on your values. If you're in a monogamous relationship, you're violating whatever vows you took, so that's just sleezy.

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Answer 4

If you're involved with someone else..then it's still cheating. Also just don't hurt someone of the same sex because you want to experiment....that's not fair either.

Answer 5

First of all, that would be cheating. Second, it's mean to experiment with people. You hear girls say all the time "I'm tired of being some straight girl's little experiment." It doesn't feel good to be used just to see if you like lesbians. Back to your boyfriend, I'd be pissed if I were him. Id say, "Why do you need to know about that? Are you unfulfilled? Are you dissatisfied with my penis?" I would not be happy at all.

Answer 6

Its wrong because it was dishonest. How come people think that if sex is with the same sex it isnt cheating? Its things like this that down grade the gay relationship...no wonder why hetero people think that we are all deviant sex feinds, that cant control ourselves.....

Answer 7

Wrong in who's eyes? If its wrong in yours then dont do it, anyone else's eyes I dont worry about. As for your commited relationship, somehow I dont think your as commited as you think. Would I tell , nope, I wouldnt want to hurt my partner, by off loading my guilt.

Answer 8

There is a saying, " Some things are better left unsaid " and as for trying it to see if you like it,, thats just good ol human curiosity,, heck go for it, jump in, but if it is just a one time thing I wouldnt tell,, but if you decide to continue it long term,, maybe your BF would enjoy it as well,

Answer 9

I would suggest that you live by your own moral code.
It may or may not be important to you to share this part of your life (experimenting with your sexuality) with your parter. Personally, I would - because honesty and trust (within a relationship) are important to me.

Answer 10

wrong to whom, my dear? what's wrong to us might be right to you, so the answer is, "It's up to you."

Dont let the views of other people bring you down to be thinking like them. just be yourself andf think for yourself.
contrary to popular belief, thinking is NOT illegal yet.

do what you feel is the right thing and what you want to do. Go with your instincts and your own personal feelings in this situation.

Don't necissarily listen to other people when it comes to morals and beliefs, because then things can get really screwed up.