What was it that led you to eventually forgive him/her? Was it time, love, understanding, etc.? How do you move past wounds?
even if the person wanted the best for you, thought they were doing what was best, but somehow-they unintentionally hurt you more than once in the same way
Can love be so great that it can forget?
2007-04-02 16:16:22 · 12 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Can love be so great that it can forget? .. forgive perhaps forget i don't think so.
as the saying goes time heals
so yes guess the wounds heal and become scars.
Character building exercises
what does not kill one
can only make them stronger
are you willing to risk your heart
knowing it has already
been broken more than once
the choice is yours
on how many times you
want your heart broken
or is it time to close the book
and move on to the next chapter.
2007-04-02 16:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I could certainly forgive much easier someone who truly thought they were acting in my best interest than someone who intentionally set out to hurt me. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone hurts someone. As much as I try to be a good, honest and fair person, I'm sure I've hurt people along the way. If you want forgiveness for the wrongs you've done, you've got to give it for the wrongs you've suffered. No, it's definitely not easy sometimes, but you have to make the effort. What I try to do is find something good that came out of it. For instance, my ex-husband was an alcoholic with a very nasty temper. He was abusive to me in every way possible. When I left him, I was running for my life. It took me a long time to stop being angry and feeling sorry for myself, but what I've come to see is that I'm stronger now for having gone through that and I'm a lot smarter about people and situations than I was before that. That's the good that came out of it. It's a lot easier for me to let it go when I can find something good ... even one small tiny thing ... that came as a result of the hurt that I suffered.
2007-04-02 23:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly where you are coming from. i have been hurt bad before, it was unintentional but still a horrible experience. when i thought everything was worked out a hurtful situation happened again. knowing it was unintentional made it a little easier to forgive. it took time, it hurt so bad, but i looked at all of the good stuff, and thought of the love we had for each other the rest of the time. let me tell you...a person can forgive but the will NEVER forget!!!!!
2007-04-02 23:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by har 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have to fogive for wrong doings. forgetting is something we never do. i know from experience that if you love someone more than anything in the world, and they hurt you really bad, you can move on, and it gets easier, but you never forget. there are times when the thought comes back to haunt you, until you forget again, and again. Love heals all wounds with time!
2007-04-02 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never or ever can forget or forgive the past love, but only time can heal your wounds.I think you may even see a best or better person than the person who broke up with you. so everything happens for good.
2007-04-02 23:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by sudalaimadanvandavasigramam 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't forget but you forgive. If you forget you'll repeat your mistakes. No telling how many times you can forgive but I'll tell you what, every scar opens up easier the second and third time you cut it, and it gets harder and harder to trust and hope, for me anyway. But yes I have forgiven a lot. it's just there and it happens.
2007-04-02 23:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by forlove 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to forgive anyone who has wronged you. I know that it is easier said than done. Keep in mind that just because you forgive someone doesn't mean that you have to be their fool. Don't put yourself in a position to let that person hurt you again (fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me). People are going to make mistakes. Learn from their mistakes as well as your own.
2007-04-02 23:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by utk_vol 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You forgive and forget because either you do love them enough to or because you are tired of living with the hate you have for them
2007-04-02 23:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes and i was so mad and i wanted so much to hate him but finally realized i could let go of the anger and just allow myself to feel however i felt even if it made no sense, i then realized as much as i had every right to hate him i in fact still loved him i decided to accept that and love him from a distance and only in my memories.that allowed me to get over the pain and bitterness that was making me sick.it takes time.do it for yourself but you dont need to be a victim again either you know the truth now take care of yourself.good luck.
2007-04-03 00:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by dixie58 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never...You will never get the hurt out of your head...No type of love can make you forget, forgive maybe, but never forget...
2007-04-02 23:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋