Don't they know that if a man doesn't put a ring on their finger, he doesn't want them to have his baby?
2007-04-02 15:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by CustomBentley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it does take two to have a baby. Unfortunately though the woman carries the child for 9 months and still provides most of its physical and emotional care during its childhood.
I asked a similar question a few nights ago and really seemed to hit a nerve. I just simply don't understand how anyone--woman or man--can rationalize that they aren't ready to get married but they are ready to have a child.
But that's me.
2007-04-02 15:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of couples who believe that marriage doesn't necessarily mean happily ever after and therefore choose to live as life partners rather than spouses. And even if one partner does want to get married and the other doesn't, it isn't always the man. My best friend's boyfriend wanted to marry her, but she didn't want to at that time. They've raised three kids together in the last eight years with only a couple years of marriage behind them. She's not a whore and he's not spineless or running away from responsibility. And there is yet another breed of women that just don't want a man in their lives because all they've met are jerks and losers. A single woman may decide she wants a family, but doesn't have or want a man, so she chooses to adopt or use a sperm bank. Same with lesbian couples. A sperm donor never expects to wed the woman who uses his sperm, but expects her to have his baby.
Families come in all shapes and sizes. With child abuse of all kinds, shouldn't everyone who can provide a stable and loving home be able to without judgement from others?
2007-04-02 22:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a very general question you asked there. Everybody's situation is different. But I'd take a guess that most of the women you're talking about either got pregnant accidentally and decided to keep the baby or wanted the child and didn't care if it was out of wedlock or not. I personally don't understand it myself but then again I don't ever want children. So I guess you'll just have to ask these women yourself 'cause I can't help you.
2007-04-02 22:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a bunch of BS. Just cause people get married doesn't mean they are the best parents. There is nothing against marriage. but if you don't want to get married why should you. this isn't a dictatorship. I know lots of divorced women that have a hard time getting their babies fathers to step up and take care of their kids. That is not a fair assessment for whether or not people will make good parents. Why are you being so hateful and blaming the women for all this. Where does the mans responibility lie in gettting a women pregnant?
2007-04-02 23:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the maturity of the couple. Some women just want a baby without the responsibility of the man being in the picture.
Other women tell their men they are pregnant, and the guy splits.
Don't make this out like it's all the women's fault.
2007-04-02 22:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why... but it truly burns my hide! Having sex is so much more then inserting yourself inside someone. And the blame should go to both parties, not just the female. I have a cousin that is no more than 20 years of age...she has 3 children stair-step in ages (one behind the other). And just last week went into labor with triplets!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Someone asked me what I was going to get her for a baby gift...I turned to her and replied, "birth control"!!!!
2007-04-02 22:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Pammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true. So you are saying that every man that has a baby that is not married, didnt/dont want the baby? When a man doesnt want a baby, he wraps that s-h-i-t up. Ur dumb! I know plenty of homies that aint married and had a kid by someone that they are not married too, and they were happy. Try again.
2007-04-02 22:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply, because it is more accepted in today's society. When I was coming up as a young teenager, we thought about the consequences of having a child out of wedlock, the difficulties of raising a child alone, the expenses involved, and the life altering path a child born to a single parent would lead you to. But in today's society, there are organization that aide single parents, so it seems to make it o.k.
2007-04-02 22:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
because their parents did not teach them any morals or values....Parents have not taught their kids to respect themselves......and the parents do not expect their kids to even respect them as parents, so why is the world would these girls respect themselves or their bodies. These kids have not been taught that it is wrong to have children out of wedlock.....parents now days are only concerned with themselves, and not their kids.....the schools are suppose to raise the children.....well now.....they are into to this it take a village.....I don't want a village raising my kid, Because I do not want to become a robot of the government that Hillary Clintoon wants us to live....no way. Parents need to take a more active role in their kids education.....teach all your children to respect all people.....and then you can teach them to respect their bodies, and then maybe the number of teen pregnancies and unwed mothers will decrease. But it starts AT HOME........NOT SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-02 22:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want them to have his baby why does he put his dick in them without considering the consequences.
With an attitude like yours I think the only action you're gonna see is when you "swap rings" with another dude.
2007-04-02 22:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋