Please do not say anything mean or upsetting I do know what I did was wrong and I regret it everyday. Do not tell me how bad it was and that god is punishing me because I have asked for forgiveness and also have been baptized. I wish that I could go back and change what I did but I can’t the only thing I can do is move on. Anyways I have a three-year-old son and am trying to get pregnant I have had many test done along with my husband everything came out ok. I ovulate normal have my period exactly on day 26. My doctor has put me on clomid and I will start it in a couple of days. My question is do you think my abortion could have played an effect on me not being able to get pregnant? My doctor said that that I have my period regular and ovulate so there is nothing to worry about. I want to ask my doctor if I can get a laparoscopy done but she seems to think that everything is ok with me. Why do you think I got pregnant with my son right away and than missed a patch by a day and got pregnant again but cannot get pregnant now?
2007-04-02 14:40:12 · 17 answers · asked by jenny♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
ttc 1 year
2007-04-02 14:46:40 · update #1
My husband dose not have any children of his own but his sperm test did come back ok
2007-04-02 14:51:27 · update #2
I am 22 yr old
2007-04-02 18:54:12 · update #3
Abortions do not inhibit fertility. If you dr has said everything is ok then everything is ok. God is not punishing you. Mean people are to be ignored. You can get pregnant unless there are other issues that are not abortion related going on. Hold your head high and ignore the haters out there.
2007-04-02 14:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by CindyD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys that I fell pregnant with easily and I now have been trying for 3 years. I fell pregnant last year and lost the bub. I too have been told that there is nothing wrong with me. Sometimes there are no answers. Give the clomid a go and if it doesn't work then go and ask for a laparoscopy to be done. I finaly got one and it came back all clear. Unless there has been major scaring then there shouldn't be a problem. You do sound like you have problems letting go what happened. Maybe you should talk to someone as the stress of it may be having an effect. Just keep in mind things happen for a reason and you were not meant to have that baby. I don't believe in getting punished. We do that enough ourselves. I wish you all the best and hope your wishes comes true.
2007-04-02 14:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is not punishing you, He loves you. Please remember that no two pregnancies are equal. Is age a factor? When you had your 3 year old maybe you were 33 and now you're 36 trying again or older? It's a bit tougher for older moms, but you know... even under the best circumstances there's only a 20% chance of getting pregnant every month, for all of us. I think the stress you are putting on yourself of trying to get pregnant could be getting in your way.
An ultrasound of your female parts might be a good idea just to rule things out. You could have fibroids or scar tissue (not necessarily from abortion, but from infection or even a c-section if you had one). The Chlomid might be the magic ticket so give it a try.
Whatever happens just remember that sometimes it's easy, sometimes it isn't, we all go through it. Hang in there, it will happen.
Good luck!
2007-04-02 15:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being punished. It just might be that your missing your ovulation peak day. I have a cousin who had 4 abortions after she had her daughter, who is now 7. She also has a 4 yr old, who was conceived after the abortions. If your going to be put on Clomid then you will probably conceive right away. I have a friend who was on Clomid and got pregnant w/in 3 months. God forgives us for all our wrongs. Keep faith and you will get the blessing you are seeking.I wish you all the best in conceiving.
2007-04-02 17:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by TEGAN W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are being punished. Getting pregnant is not a exact science. At the age of 19 I had a miscarriage and had to have a D&C which in a sence is the same thing. I went on to have 3 healthy childern..(16,15, and omg 6). I don't want to preach to you but God is not vengful and when it is time it will happen. Try and let go of the stress you are causing yourself. One more thing if you think there is a medical reason and that your doctor is not seeing it, it never hurts to ask for a second oppion. Good luck.
2007-04-02 14:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by charmedone0803 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends' sister has had 6 abortions and 4 successful pregnancies. Didn't seem to effect her ability to get pregnant at all. From what I understand, she had the abortions between each pregnancy. I don't condone her use of abortion as a means to birth control and I certainly am not going to hold it against a scared young girl for getting one. I'm using the situation to show you that it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it. What you CAN get done is have your uterus and fallopian tubes flushed to see if there is any blockage. I had that done as I had been trying to get pregnant for 5 years. My doctor told me that more times than not, women get pregnant after that procedure. I didn't believe him but became pregnant 2 months later.
2007-04-04 08:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pregnancy problems (incompetent cervix etc) and infertility can result from abortion but that doesn't necessarily mean it's why you are dealing with secondary infertility.
I would look into some resources on SI.
Blessings- God isn't punishing you. Sometimes we have to deal with the consequences of our mistakes, but God does not delight in punishing people like some pious people would like to think.
2007-04-02 14:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by busybusymomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stress can cause you not to get pregnant so maybe just take it easy for awhile it will happen on its own time. i am worried about the same thing. i had an abortion when i was eighteen and now i worry god will punish me by not letting me have any children at all. Maybe your body just isn't ready yet for another child. take it easy and good luck
2007-04-02 14:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all of your test have come back OK then there is no way the abortion is the reason you have not conceived yet you will in time just relax and don't stress your self out
2007-04-02 14:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A large percentage of women experience decreased fertility after abortion. I recommend finding a pregnancy center that offers post-abortion support such as peer counseling and support groups. You can find a center by going to www.optionline.org
Much love,
Katie
2007-04-02 17:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋