i feel really lonley in this world n i want a baby. is that good?

Answer 1

It's normal to feel that way, but to have a child just to satisfy a feeling that may not last that long is a HUGE commitment. I would go out and adopt a puppy or kitty that is just as alone and in need of someone as you are. At least that way you won't resent it later or feel like you screwed up just on a whim. Hope you feel better and make the best choice for you.

Answer 2

Are you asking if it is a good idea to have a baby so you will no longer be lonely?
No, that's not a good reason to have a baby. I know many people who had a baby because they were lonely, and it did not help at all. The loneliness you feel is probably the kind that can only be helped by good, solid relationships in your life, such as good friends. Loneliness can also be helped by finding ways to become your own best friend. That way you always have someone you can rely on!
Wanting a baby is a good thing, but never in order to fill a void in your life. Babies are a joy, but they are also so much work. They do not make your social life any better.
Have a baby when you feel you have time and love to give, and want to share that with a child. Having a partner who you feel really secure with helps a great deal, for you and for the baby.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you feel lonely. That must be very hard. But having a baby just because you are lonely is a bad idea. Babies are very difficult, and you need to think of the baby before yourself. Is your life the kind of situation that is good for a baby? Whatever you do, think of the baby first. Having a child should not only be about you, but about everyone concerned. Maybe you should go to some activities and try to make friends? Or perhaps get involved in some service activities, like visiting a nursing home.

Answer 4

Most women want a baby or a man when they feel lonley, its normal. However, its smarter to make sure you have a partner. If you don't the child might grow up as we call it "A Lost Cause" you wouldn't want the child to suffer just because you felt lonely at the time. Also you need to know what your getting into, once your in there is really no getting out.

Answer 5

you will not have enough money to care for the baby. you will probably go on welfare because you have no health insurance. Your friends will come around lots at first and hold your baby but shortly after they will not return and go out with guys and take sex vacations to new exciting places and you will be at home with a crying baby. You will lose your patience with the baby crying so much and you may start to hit the baby and get depressed. If neighbors see this they will report you to child protective services. Soon your baby will be taken from you because you are an unfit mother. Then, you can go make another baby if you get lonely and start all over. Men will not want anything to do with you because they want a family of their own and not to pay for some baby that is not theirs...... so you tell me, Is that good?

Answer 6

No. Having a baby because you are lonely is not at all a good idea.
The responsibilities that go with being a good parent place added stress on even the most well adjusted person.
Find a hobby, join a club, take up a sport, go to school. Make friends, and enjoy life. A baby will be totally dependent and will make you more lonely because you won't be able to go out with friends or to date whenever you want to. THINK!

Answer 7

Now are you wanting the baby because you think it will fill this void that you feel right now? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should talk to someone..sounds to me that you are depressed and depression is a symptom that won't be taken care of by having a baby. So why not push that idea to the side and seek medical attention to pinpoint the problem and seek a resolution so you can stop living in a lonely world!

Answer 8

Hello sweetie :) I'm sorry that you are lonely. Everybody is lonely we all want to love and be loved. Children are precious beautiful gifts from God but they are alot of work too! You will find yourself pouring alot of time and energy into a child and if that is what you are ready for, how wonderful for you! I hope that you will consider the child's needs as well, as every child needs a mom and a dad - a stable parental relationship is priceless to the development of a child.

That being said, if I were you I wouldn't expect a baby to take away the lonely feeling you have in your heart - children can add so much to your life, but there is only one person who can fill up the lonliness in your heart and love you like you need to be loved and that is Jesus.

God truly does love you and wants to spend more time with you :) And he can give you the strength you need to be a great mommy too!

Answer 9

I think it's common to feel this way, but from my point of view it doesn't make sense. I have two babies and I'm very lonely (that's why I'm here all the time). My husband is in Iraq and we just moved to this town, so I need to get off the computer and meet people. Maybe joining a club will do us both some good!

Answer 10

You DEFINITELY shouldn't have a baby if you are just lonely. You should be sure in who you are and happy and have an upbeat mindset, (ideally), and make sure you have no signs of depression. Often girls will have babies (girls, yes, like teenagers, or young women) to have somebody that loves them back as much as they love it - the thing is, if you have ANY bit of depression, once the baby comes it is a lot of stress the first few weeks trying to figure everything out and be gentle and patient with your screaming pink ball of fury. You need support - even if you just have someone to talk to - to have a baby. You need to be ready MENTALLY, not just to have somebody to love you back. Read up on post-partum depression, and most of the time who it happens to. It happens to a lot of women, but more often in those who weren't really prepared for the baby. The baby cries too much and they think it hates them, etc. when it's just a tiny infant with one of a few needs - it's uncomfortable (needs to be burped or changed), it's tired (needs to sleep), it's hungry (needs to be fed), or it wants to be held.
A baby is a lot of work. Maybe talk with someone about wanting a baby - your significant other, if applicable - or a close friend or even your doctor, and search out your feelings and see if you really want a baby to fulfill your lonliness or if it's something else you seek. Maybe you need to dive into finding out who YOU are more. You know?