Help me with my boyfriend please!?

Question

He hates one of my old guy friends who i was never intimate with, and forced me to end my friendship because of this hate. I was rebellious because i didn't want him telling me what to do. He deleted all of my pictures of my old friend and deleted his number from my phone book, yet a month ago i found the number in his phone, in case of a situation like this, he said. I copied the number into my phone and hid it...well he found it and was pissed. i haven't talked to this guy in at least 5 months but he won't believe me. this is about the 4th fight we have had over my old friend and we about called it quits over this one. I would break up with him but he keeps telling me he will become depressed and start failing in college and work and makes me feel like it will be my fault. the only way i can gain his trust back he says is if i get a copy of all of my phone records so he can see, and its near impossible for me to do that. any suggestions on what i can do will be much appreciated

Answer 1

Yea leave him.... I know it won't be that easy but this is extreme insecurities your dealing with. On top of that he already shows some great manipulation skills. Guilty tripin you into staying with him. I can't talk to him, but I'll tell you that this is all bs, that you would even allow him to treat you with this kind of bs shows that your to quick to give into people. DON'T! If he can't understand you and your relationships then he is lacking compassion. If he is lacking compassion that means he has trouble understanding why he loves you, which would mean he isn't sure who he loves. Which in-turn means in his mind he is in love with a stranger, a enemy who most be watched and controled. Is this really what you want from a guy who says he loves you? Keep in mind love is the start you have to have compassion and passion in a relationship or else your in it for the wrong reasons. Form the looks of this he pick you for your controlablity or because your the best he could do... keep in mind this guys mistakes are not yours to fix.... let the boy grow up...