depressed? or crazy?

Question

i've lost a horse and a number of other things in my life. and i cant let go

the horse (montana) was one of the most important things in my life. i loved him so much i would do anything to keep him forever with me. but i had to let him go away with previous owners and then because of neglect he died. it been almost half a year. and i cant get over it. i cry all the time. i keep wanting him back. i feel guilty. even for a differnet horse that i left years and years ago. i still cry and i'm still not over it. half the time i happy and hyper with my friends. and the other half i'm depressed, self defeating. and then i think of what i lost, and how it might be my fault. and how i could've changed things if i did this or that. do i need therapy? i want to be able to think of it, and accept it. but i cant accept that they're gone. i still want them all back. i cant handle losing them. especially montana.

opinions appreciated

thanks

Answer 1

I think that it is very difficult to lose something or someone that has been very close to you. Overall, professionals consider that grif that lasts longer than six months may require some attention depending on how intense the grief is. It does not sound like you are giving up things that give you some pleasure totally, such as going out with your friends or going to places you enjoy. If you were, it would be closer to a clinical depression. However, the suggestions that you seek a counselor or join a grief group that are people have made are good ones. I am sure you realize that your loved animals are not coming back, but I also sense that you might be blaming yourself in some way, and maybe you need to discuss this with someone. Blaming yourself is a heavy burden that you should not place upon youself. I am sure that the circumstances were such that it was beyond your control and acceptance will come once you stop blaming yourself.

Answer 2

I think it depends on your age and how long you grieve. I think you need to redirect these feeling towards the living. I would think you'll eventually get stronger. When I see road kill it bothers me. Especially an animal that's dying. Maybe you could visit an animal shelter or eventually join a group that helps recover these animals thru animal rights groups. If your animal could tell you what it would like you to do etc. My ex wife's grandfather died trying to help some deer he hit on the highway. He was hit and dragged by another driver.The other driver than sued the family of the dead man for damages etc. Yeah, you need some therapy and maybe some meds if you can't control these feelings after a reasonable time of grieving.

Answer 3

Well there is no way to get him back...You have to realize its impossible...BUT you can always think of him and the fun you had with him brushing his mane doing his daily activities and things..whatever makes you smile about him...You should really seek therapy maybe even treatment for depression...Every one of those horses served a meaning in your life as you and I both know you cant always have what you want...So seek therapy..I dont think your crazy..I think its really beautiful of the love & passion you had for your animals...I know what its like to miss someone So I can somewhat relate to you..I Miss my son dearly he will have been gone 6 months the 8th of April....Its not a easy situation we are in but we can take it day by day...

Take Care~

Answer 4

I think you ought to get yourself into a grief support group. You are suffering from grief and there are counselors in these groups that can help you at least deal with your feelings. We all grieve in different ways over different things and reasons. Please give yourself time and seek others that are going through similar grief to help you.

Answer 5

Depressed
or
Denile
you just cant let go but you know that he isnt coming back and you need to just accept it
so
yeah
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