what do I do to divert myself from being jealous or not trusting? AM i a LOSER?

Question

I live with my girlfriend, who has an adorable daughter, for over 3 years. During the first 2 years we have been working in the same company together until i started my own business over a year ago. She still works in the same company and recently moved to a new account where the male gender covers 80% of the population in that account. She recently (Like 5 months ago) started going on overtime on a daily basis mostly 2-3hours a day.Our schedule has not been cooperative too.When Im at home she is not, when she is home I am not. We have been also arguing, before she tells me she going out with her "co-workers". And lastly because of her "overtimes" I end up taking care of her kid most of the time. On the other hand she still shows affection to me, and I have this reputation of being jealous because by ex-girl before my recent cheated on me 3 times during our 4 yr relationship. What shld I do to divert my attention or get piece of mind.Am I a loser, for just taking it in w/o a complaint?

Answer 1

NO you aren't a loser! Not one bit. Your girlfriend should be home spending time with her family rather than going out drinking with co workers. You aren't married though, so she really doesn't have a commitment to you. You just have a daughter together. Does that mean there's a commitment, no. Plus, she is not your ex girlfriend, so you might wanna quit treating her like that or else you will lose her forever. It's not her fault, she's not your ex, so quit treating her like it!

Answer 2

There really is no easy way to overcome your emotions. This is one of those times when you have to let your guard down, and learn to trust. However, a lot of the problem could be resolved if you would take the time to sit down with her and -rationally- explain that her behavior is causing strain on your relationship. It might help alot if you just came out and told her what you are feeling, rather than holding it and and letting it eat you alive.

Answer 3

She should be more considerate of being with you. Since your hours make it hard to be together, she should try to make time for you. Jealousy never is a good idea, it will ruin your relationship. Stop thinking she will do what the ex did, remember she is with you and loves you. No, your not a loser just a guy in love.

Answer 4

Talk to her..let her know how you feel and why you are insecure..She may not realize it..Its normal to wonder. Alot of people cheat this way so you are not a loser for wondering..Its also normal to get lonely because she is gone alot..Maybe somehow you can compromise with her..Only a few days of over time..Also you have been cheated on before and you know it hurts..so you are in tune with the possibility of it happening again..Good luck..

Answer 5

u hav answered ur question by guessing u r a looser''..but its obvious, its not ur mistake.. u love her and u want her..u want to spend ur time with her..and also its her idea..but most of all u guys hav to sit and thing about the circumstances..is it worth both working so hard that u dont hav time for ur personells???.....is it u forcing her to earn and support u?? or is she not willing to take up responsibility to stay home and takeare of the child and be happy with 1 job at a time???.....love needs ''space of time''.and u both r struck..may be its not her mistake..or u can talk to her in a soft voice to cut down her part times if its not worth or disturbing ur home....ovetimes will over time ur relationships..today many couples reached to the end of divorces and break ups due to such jobs, clear ur mind. sit and talk to her..plan...work out..show love..and expect the situation of her reaction towards u..then decide wat next...good luck..god bless.

Answer 6

you are not a loser jus a guy in love.

Answer 7

trust her,