i am trying to get pregnant and cant but have had 1 miscarriage i know of help?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over two years, well we have been wanting a child and have already lost one at one point in time. and now we are wanting and have been trying to get pregnant again and all. we have tried birthcontrol pills coming off of them and i was just wondering how i could find out if there is something that is stoping us from starting a family or will it come natural. i have talked to my family members about it and friends and none of them have told me anything that i want to hear. so i have been wanting to get pregnant and gave up on the trying part so if it happens it happens. and then i want to get back in the trying to mood. well do you think it was because we was trying to hard and it was causing so much stress and all that is the reason why i am unable to concieve a child. well i hope some one could help me on this, to give me some kind of idea on what to do next with the trying to conceive ideas ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 1

I have "been there and done that", because I suffered infertility for 9 long, painful years. First of all, at least you know you achieved pregnancy once before so you have a good chance of doing so again. I will post the complete fertility advice here. Once you have been actively trying for a year without success, please see your gynecologist for a complete fertility workup. When you are under 30, most doctors suggest you try for a year before seeking further help. This is because most people will succeed within that year. Here are the tips:

These are the usual tips given when trying to conceive:
1. Do limit movement after intercourse. Stay lying down with a pillow under your hips for a half hour.
2. Do try to make sex enjoyable. More enjoyable sex means higher sperm count and better “swimmers”.
3. Limit intercourse and male masturbation prior to the days you are trying to conceive.
4. Take vitamins. Folic acid and other vitamins are very important.
5. Don’t drink alcohol or use drugs at the time of conception. This applies to both of you. There is strong evidence that alcohol can effect your chances of getting pregnant.
6. Don’t douche after having intercourse.
7. Don’t have oral sex prior to intercourse. There is some evidence that the bacteria in the mouth can cause damage to male sperm.


There are only a few true ways to determine ovulation:
1. get a basal thermometer (bbt) and plot your temp daily
2. there are OTC kits to check if you are ovulating
3. check your vaginal mucus daily

For the basal thermometer:
You take your temp daily...as soon as you wake up and before you get out of bed. You take it for a full 5 minutes. The day your temp is the highest is the day of ovulation. For more info:
http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/bbt-basal-body-temperature.html

For mucus check:
At time of ovulation, mucus resembles egg whites: it will be thin, clear, generous in amount and stringy when pulled apart. To learn more about it: http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/cervical-mucus.html

This site may also help. It provides an ovulation calculator to help you determine your fertile times: http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/gettingpregnant/l/blcalovulate.htm


The ways to improve sperm count:
1. no tidy whiteys! wear only boxers
2. if he has a job that requires a lot of sitting, take more breaks to stand up
3. no alcohol
4. no masturbation
5. avoid hot baths
6. no smoking or recreational drugs
7. take antii-oxident vitamins
8. no caffeine
9. save intercourse for the time of ovulation
10. make love in the morning...more sperm is produced during the night and man's sexual peak is in the morning

I also recommend the book: Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler

Good luck!

Answer 2

TTC can be so hard on you and your partner. They say if you try too hard it wont happen. Stress can also play a role. If you haven't fallen in a year then go talk to a gyno. That way you will know for sure what is causeing it. Take a big deep breath and relax. Find out whats going on so you know where you stand and that way you might stress a little less and it might happen for you. Good luck I wish you all the best

Answer 3

Yes, stress will mess with you ovulating stop thinking about it and talking about it. What I do is when I know I am about to come on I will count fourteen days which is when Im about to ovulate and four days before I ovulate I have sex without telling my husband those are the days and I dont think about it. This helps relax me because its not like honey hurry up with have to do it right now. This makes your stress level rise more because your so frantic for it to happen.

Answer 4

If you've been trying for awhile and still haven't been able to conceive, go in for a checkup with a gynecologist. They can do tests that will determine, first, if you're ovulating and also to determine the sperm count and sperm motility rate of your partner. The doc can also check to make sure your tubes aren't blocked.

Answer 5

Try again and stay positive.