Why is it noble to marry a woman just because shes pregnant?

Question

Is it? I think thats an awful thing to marry when you don't love the woman>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

Answer 1

wasnt such an awful thing helping her get prego was it?nobilitycomes to guys like you in the form of Court ordered Child Support! enjoy !

Answer 2

Some of these answers are sickening! It is in every child's best interest to have a two parent household. Seeing stars and being goofy in love is overrated!

The reality is that men and women don't get together without the man taking the lead and making it happen. Here's a better question - what is the ultimate point of a union anyway? It's not about the physical attraction, the job one has, the car one drives, or any of that other crap that people seem to think is a good reason to date one person or another.

If you can build a life with a member of the opposite sex, committ to each other, respect each other, build each other up, and (if it applies) raise children who become productive as well, you have accomplished all that a union is supposed to accomplish. IT'S NOT REALLY SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT YOUR WHIM. Back in the day, marriages were chosen. You didn't choose at all. Maybe - for the sake of the children - it was better off that way.

It's best for the child if the two parents are able to make it work.

Answer 3

I guess the sad thing to me is the way people sleep together for fun and then are surprised when she ends up pregnant. I just don't understand why people don't use protection. The fact that you made a baby together bonds you for the next 18 years at least. I think it's sad to bring a child into this world and then to be so non chalant about it. A child should have two parents that care about them and love them. Marriage is a noble thing to do but if it's strictly because of the pregnancy, it may not work out. As long as both people stay involved in the childs life and work together to support it, then it's not necessarily the best thing to do to get married just for the child. Both people should be mature and responsible enough to raise the child together whether they are married or not.

Answer 4

In some cultures, a single woman with a child is ostracized. And might be forced into marriage to someone who doesn't care for her and will most likely end up abusing her emotionally and physically.

Fortunately, in the US we don't have that problem (well, in most parts anyway). I think in many ways it's actually nobler not to marry. There are so many resources for women out there that they can get all the support they need. Also, marriage is no guarantee for financial security. And ultimately that's what's is all about.

Marrying a woman "just" because she's pregnant is a monumental insult to a woman. Let's not forget though that she can just say no. But being single and pregnant is a scary situation to be in. And people do all kinds of things when they are in a state of panic and despair and in fear of the future.

Answer 5

To abandon a child to be raised without a father is the height of ignobility. To act like a man and be there for the child and do everything you can to ensure the child is raised in a loving two parent home is a noble thing to do by contrast.

And who says love can't develop if both partners are willing to try to make it work? There must have been something there to begin with or there wouldn't have been sex and the child.

Anyway, it is noble to do the right thing (even after doing the wrong thing) and I'm all in favor of children being raised in households where the parents are at least trying to do the right thing.

Answer 6

I don't think that it is. I think that it's a really bad reason to get married. First, just because she's pregnant, doesn't mean she has to stay pregnant and if she does decide to have a child, there's adoption, but in this world there are resources for single moms. Just because you had sex doesn't mean that you want to reproduce. I think men should be able to sign away all parental rights and responsibilities while the woman is still pregnant that way the prego can decide to be a single mom on her own. Marrying for this reason? It's shite and you'll start to resent the kid and that kid is better off without 'real parents' than with parents who despise him for ruining their lives. It was the right thing to do oh, 50 years ago, but times have changed. I say this as a woman.

Answer 7

beleive it or not the idea of making a child is a blessing having done this myself with the exception that the woman wasnt pregnant with my child. it was another mans child. Sex is fun and even neccesary to some people . But to be the father of a child is great. The noble part comes in because since you marry it give the child more security to know that both parents are there with him or her. which is something all children need. The fact that someone wouldnt consider marriage is a poor individual who really needs help and only uses a women for sex. If you dont love the women dont have sex with her. Its much better to have sex when you love someone. If the urge for sex is so great then use a glove. No GLOVE NO LOVE. In this day and time there are to many ways to prevent pregnancy for someone to say i dont love her and i got her pregnant . even the worst sin of all abortion is an option in society. control is not a myth when you communicate with the women you are having sex with .
Marriage is only bad for people who only love themselves.

Answer 8

Don't EVER marry by coercion. You will regret it all your life. You can be responsible for the child in many ways (i.e. give child support, be there for the birth, supporting the mother during pregnancy, etc), but you don't need to sign a paper that just proves nothing to you.

Marriage is about being responsible, but also about love and commitment.

What about if you marry and, because you regret the decision, develop an awful relationship with your wife and THAT has a negative effect for the kid in the future?

I suggest you offer every sort of support you can give - just don't marry yet. Wait until your feelings are clear.

Answer 9

You shouldn't been having sex with her, especially if you don't love her. It takes two to make a baby, so that is why they usually marry. They both need to take the consequences for the choice they made. Although in some instances if it is obvious that it would be worse for the child if the parents stay together, adoption is always an option instead of marriage.

Answer 10

Why is it noble? Who is it to say it is? What is more noble than marrying a woman just because she is pregnant? Taking care of your child! The way people get married and divorced these days, if you dont love her....then dont marry her. I know people who got married because they were going to have baby...most of them are divorced...so JUST TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD....but If you love her....marry her because you love her..not because she is pregnant...

Answer 11

I agree with you, my ex married a girl because she was pregnant. He claims he is very unhappy and that he just did it to make everyone else happy. It would be nice if people started taking sex a lot more seriously and stop messing up the lives of the children.