It seems like there's two of him. And I'm only in love with one.
2007-04-02 13:08:08 · 10 answers · asked by Becca 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I know what you mean. Everyone has two sides I think. You just have to decide if it's worth it. Is the side that you're in love with worth putting up with the side that you dislike?
No one is perfect. You will never find someone who is perfect in every single way. My boyfriend is as close to perfect as I've found. He's amazing in so many ways but he still drives me nuts sometimes! Sometimes I wish he were more like me. The bottom line is that if you love someone then you love & accept the whole person. You don't get to pick & choose what qualities you like. You take the whole package. If someone has some major flaws that you can not overlook (they are abusive, they have opposite life goals from you -- for instance they don't want kids & you do) then these things are deal-breakers. But if it's just a few minor things that you can learn to live with then don't throw it away just because it isn't perfect.
Is the side that you're in love with who he is most of the time? Can you spend your life with that person knowing that sometimes he will be very different & get on your nerves? Every couple has its bad times & arguments. Even people who are madly in love & perfect for each other have moments where they disagree. But they work through it. When you're committed to someone you agree to be there for better & for worse, not just for better. Love isn't always a picnic!
Relationships require patience & compromise. Just decide whether he's what you really want. Love yourself. Ask yourself if he's good for you, is he good to you, does he deserve you, does he allow you to be who you are, does he help you to grow or is it possible you'd be better off without him? Sometimes we refuse to see the truth & stay in bad relationships or end good ones because we're afraid to admit what we really want.
Good luck.
Search your soul & you'll find the answer.
2007-04-02 14:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're dealing with a guy who seems to have dueling personalities, you need to be careful. I was with a guy like that and he had a secret life. He was living with his ex-fiance when he told me that he was moving out. He was still in love with her even though he was sleeping with me. He basically used me to inadvertantly get back at her. If you can deal with it, that's not good either. Don't ever settle even if he seems like he's the greatest guy on earth. Men aren't always what they seem until they can prove themselves otherwise if that makes sense. I could go on forever about this type of thing but I am only going to give one last piece of advice... Read The Rules (look it up at Yahoo!). It's a great book with a TON of good information. Good luck hon.. Hope he's good to you.
2007-04-02 20:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by devon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the world we live now... It's almost impossible to answer that question. How long are you together?
Try to know him a lil' bit more. If you're in love, it'll be difficult to get away. Give the other side a chance.
Show him you're really interested and say that he'll know you as well.
2007-04-02 20:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doubting if he is the one, so I would have to say that he probably is not. If you marry him the half you don't like will be a huge part of your marriage.
2007-04-02 20:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by kana121569 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't have one without the other.
Better make up your mind before it's too late.
If he is violent get away as fast as you can.
Love and blessings Don
2007-04-02 21:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self if the part you are in love with is really worth the trouble. nothing is ever perfect, its just a matter of what we pay for is worth paying for.
2007-04-02 20:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative.
2007-04-02 21:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, it's the one that is not in love with you back.
Go with God. He'll always love you.
2007-04-02 20:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's one honey. I'm sure you r different in diff situations as well.
2007-04-02 20:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, no, he's not what you really want.
2007-04-02 20:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mary G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋