Do I rat out my friend?

Question

Do I rat out my friend?
My name is Kristin and I saw my Indian friend Sanjay at Miamis Haulover clothing optional beach. We both are 18, seniors in high school. We both live in Miami Beach but I usually go there by myself and tan in my bikini. I have never seen anyone from high school there. I was walking to find a spot on the beach to tan and I saw Sanjay there totally naked lying on his back. I couldnt help take a picture with my cell phone camera. He was lying there and he was like a 1/2 inch. It looked like a little mushroom. It looked so funny. He looked so cute, I had to take a picture.I feel like showing it to my girls Dawn, Paige and Elizabeth. Should I if they promise to never tell anyone?

Answer 1

And they say guys are perverts.

Answer 2

Wow...youre a senior in high school? i wouldn't have been able to tell given your sense of immaturity.

Is this a personal attack on Indian people, because you sure did make sure to mention that.

I think that you should grow up and get a life. Oh and by the way i hope he never finds out because i m sure he can take legal action against you for sharing nude pictures of him without his permission.

Hmm...
Miami Beach...Bikini...Tanning...
and Immature...

Let me guess are you Blonde too?

Answer 3

Make this the last thought of doing that and never think about it again. You know very well your girls would have it all over town and he would be devastated.He may be a di ck or whatever, but he doesn't deserve the humiliation you would bring down on him. Erase those pics.

Answer 4

Absolutely not. You know, if you can't say something nice.... Besides, it will just show your ignorance about the male body. Many men look small in repose. It is not necessarily an indication of true size. Remember George Costanza " tell her Jerry, tell her about shrinkage..."

Answer 5

Well, because it's so funny I wouldn't go so far as to saying it's out of the question. But, because he is your friend, you may be ruining something between you two. If more than 2 people know a secret, it's going to get out. I'm a junior in high school and I don't trust anybody knowing anything. I would post it on a site like break.com under a fake alias account, that way, he wouldn't know who did it, and everyone would get a kick out of it.

Answer 6

honestly, that's a personal decision to make. You have to consider who you are more loyal to: your girlfriends or your indian friend. If he was in public, technically your girlfriends could have been with you to share the experience, but since they weren't it's gossip.

And on a personal basis, I really don't like gossip because I like to make an opinion about someone on my own, not based off of what someone else told me.

So you could really ruin someone's reputation. You see, making them promise will only work if you KNOW they will not tell anyone. You must KNOW whether or not they will make someone else promise not to tell anyone, who makes someone else promise not to tell anyone, into a vicious circle that could get to your indian friend.

Then your friendship with your indian friend would be ruined because you humiliated him with people he did not expect to be exposed to.... well, since he was in public, he kind of should have thought about what he was doing, but as you said, no one from high school goes there.

It's Sanjay's fault for taking that assumption and exposing himself. You just have to decide whether it's worth taking that risk of loosing/ruining a friendship and whether humiliation is really funny or even cute.

You have to see it in other's perspective. In the long run, is it worth showing the picture?

If you really want my opinion, I dislike negative gossip. And this to me is a form of negative gossip, something you discovered that could potentially damage a guy's ego/self-esteem, whatever. Especially since he's your friend. If it were me, I wouldn't even take the picture. I would pretend like it never happened, it's Sanjay's personal choice of who he wants to know about his personal physicality. Sure, it was dumb to do what he did in public if he cared about anyone knowing, but you shouldn't make a decision for him and expose him further than he has already exposed himself.

If you really think it's okay, and that you won't hurt your friend, you can even ask Sanjay if you can tease him to your girlfriends. Hmm. Awkward, huh? It's because he's probably not comfortable you showing him to your girlfriends.

Or maybe he is, you'll have to ask him to find out.

Bottom line: Weigh out each of the choices with their consequences and realize that anything that happens from this situation is ultimately your fault because you made this choice with a concious of everything that could happen if you gossip to your girlfriends.

But if you can trust your friends and you don't care to be completely loyal with Sanjay, go ahead and show the picture. No harm can come from it unless the words get out, but you can trust your friends right? If you can, this can stay a short-term joke, or a long-term one between you and anyone who knows about Sanjay.

But if you don't want to risk your friendship with Sanjay and/or your friends aren't completely trustworthy, I would reconsider.

Answer 7

You are a sick little girl. You're parents must be so proud that you enjoy making fun of people. NO you shouldn't tell anyone. If you do, I hope this guy knocks the holy living hell out of you. You would deserve it. I bet he'd tell everyone....how would you like it if someone said you had rotten crotch? You probably wouldn't. Would ya? Gawd, wtf is wrong w/ some people? People are very insecure about stuff like that...what if he kills himself because of you? Would that please you? From the sounds of your post, I would imagine it wouldn't effect in you in any way. Should I spell this out for you??? EFFIN MORON!

Answer 8

ummmm NOOOO!! It seems funny to you (and to me)) but come ON! how could you forgive yourself after! Thy'd tell even if thery promised not to, and this innocent guy will be made fun of for just wanting a better tan! What if someone took one of you if you were like bloated and showed it to his "boys"??

Answer 9

Never rat out your friends unless you find it in your friend's best interest. One example of that would be an alcohol or drug problem. You will find that ratting on silly things will not get much attention be anyone, but it can ruin your friendship.

Im Just Joe

Answer 10

You should not put so much personal info online, especially if you are advertising that you are an 18 year old girl who goes to nude beaches.

PS: What does him being indian have to do with any of this?

Answer 11

No, and you should not have taken his picture without permission. I suspect such behaviour is not allowed at such a beach and your phone would have been confiscated had someone seen you.

It's not 'ratting him out' - he's done nothing wrong. You've already done wrong by invading his privacy, and will compound that if you share it with others.