Husband of 17yrs has clinical depression, he is not happy in relationship but says he wants to stay wih me and work things out.we dont fight and i have tried to be very supportive and loving even though this is very one sided most of the time.We have four children.I love him deeply and dont want to end this marriage.I believe he still loves me but just cant see it through the depression.
2007-04-02 12:13:51 · 8 answers · asked by mareeL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has been to a couple of individual sessions but he finds it very difficult to talk, this is the main reason he is depressed he keeps everthing inside and withdraws,
2007-04-02 12:27:03 · update #1
He has been taking effexor xr since nov o6 dosage just increased to 225gms.he seems better to me and says he feels ok but i know he still is not happy and seems to blame our relationship. A relationship that i thought was fine until this all came crashing down last year.
2007-04-02 12:30:16 · update #2
Yes marriage counseling will help save your marriage if both are willing to attend and try with the same result in mind and personal counseling can help him work thru his depression if thats what he wants. He needs to clear up his problem before trying any other counseling together so this may take a little time so be patient and keep your eye set on your goal. Good luck
2007-04-02 12:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A therapist can't save your marriage, but there is a good chance you two can, and if trying a therapist is something you want to do to try to do that, then by all means try one. Just remember, they are statistically a disturbed bunch themselves, so don't expect huge miracles.
2007-04-02 13:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if he got counceling for his depression first, that might really help, but I think marriage counceling help save your marriage.
But for it to be successful, he needs to open up and talk. Because there's no way that counceling will help if he isn't communicating.
2007-04-02 13:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a therapist may be able to prescribe him an anti depressant that could be the saver of your marriage. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, but there is something wrong with thinking that people that ask for help are doing something wrong!
2007-04-02 12:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help for his problem and you can support him through it. I think you both love each other but there is something wrong inside him that needs attention.
2007-04-02 12:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to talk to someone will only work if both of you go in there open minded and want it to work for you.
2007-04-02 12:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not if they don't wont it to but if they are willing it wouldn't hurt
2007-04-02 12:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is HE getting counseling for his depression???? That would be paramount to getting through the bump in your marriage....
2007-04-02 12:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if both of you really want to work it out.
2007-04-02 12:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋