Is my ex pregnant??

Question

my ex is on the brith control shot. she has been on it for 5 and a half months already. about 2 and a half month ago we had sex the day after she had gone to the doctors to get her stomach cleaned. i used protection. that was the only time we had sex after her misscarriage. a week later she had her period. and week after that she was Supossedly pregnant. it took me over 4 weeks to make her give me a pregnancy test and it came out negative, but she still insisted that she was pregnant. she had went to the doctors for check ups but i was never there. i told her that all her pregnancy symptons were all the side effects of the birth control. she doest not beleive me and she is so sure shes pregnant. today we went to Kaiser permente but she refused to go in. she said that i would leave her if i knew it was real.... i dont know what to do. is she pregnant of not??

Answer 1

She is not pregnant. You say: she has had the Depo shot and has gotten it regularly for 5 and a half months. She had a D&C, which I assume is what you mean by "stomach cleaning". Plus, she has had a negative pregancy test, AND you used protection. I highly doubt she is pregnant. I think she's playing games with you, for whatever reason.

If she thinks she is pregnant because she hasn't gotten a period. Well, that's typical of the Depo shot. That is suppose to happen. If you only had sex with her once and it was the day after a D&C, the odds of her being pregnant decrease even more.

Why would she think she is pregnant in light of the following evidence that she is NOT: she has been getting regular Depo shots, she took a pregancy test and it was negative, you had sex with her 1 day after a D&C which decreases the likehood of implantation (if not makes it impossible), AND you used protection. It doesn't make sense.

I think the more important question here is why she is messing with you and why you are tolerating it. Lose her!

Given the detail you provide, only divine conception would explain her being pregnant. If for some asinine reason she really is pregnant, that is, she has lied about getting the Depo shots or any other aspect that supports her not being pregnant, worry about that after a DNA test. Why let her play you, in the meantime. If she doesn't want to be straight about this, she'll have to be straight about it in 9 months. Simple as that.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The first thing I'm noticing is that there are a couple of holes in her story. First, she could not have gotten an accurate reading on a urine test only two weeks after you had sex. There simply are not enough hormones in the urine to detect pregnancy that early. And while it is possible to get pregnant while on the shot, it's highly unlikely; especially if you were using protection. I would take her to the doc personally and be right there with her while she gets checked out. From the information you've given here, it's unlikely, but not impossible. She sounds like she's just wanting to string you along. How would you feel if she is pregnant? Would you be the father that baby would need? You need to think about these things very seriously while you go through all of this with her.

Answer 4

I would be very skeptical. Things aren't adding up. She has been on the shot for 5 1/2 months but she had a miscarriage 2 1/2 months ago? I would think if she had a D&C the day before sex and you used protection, it would be very unlikely she could be pregnant. If she refuses to include you in the check up and offers no real proof. I would wonder why! Maybe she is just wishing she were pregnant since she lost a baby. I would be hesitant to have sex with her if I were you.

Answer 5

I don't think anyone will really know the answer to that besides her. Did the doctor say she was pregnant? I was on the shot for 6 months or so and got off actually because of the symptems (not unlike some pregnancy symptems) I was having. A lot of women stop their periods while on it as well. While it is possible to get pregnant even on the shot it's pretty unlikely. If she's still telling you that she is in a few months you'll be able to tell because she should start showing in two months or so.

Answer 6

This is a tough one...

It is possible to be pregnant and still have what seems to be a period. However, it doesn't sound like the timeline would be right for a pregnancy.

The only way to be sure is to have a blood test done at the Dr office.

Also, I would talk to her about why she is so concerned about you leaving. It seems that she may be worried unnecessarily.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

well obviously if she was on birth control and got preg and had a misscarriage it is possible. however the time lines don't seem to add up for her to be preg again. home tests can give you a false neg if there is not enough hcg to register, but her reluctance to go see the dr makes me think she is just trying to hold onto you. If she is really your ex you need to explain to her. that if she is preg then you will be there for your child, but either way it won't win you back.

Answer 8

She could be pregnant, but why won't she go to the doctor with you. Is she getting bigger? She might be playing mind games with you. if you broke up with her due to the miscarriage, she might feel as if she were pregnant you two would be together. Would you leave her if it was real? Why would she tell you she's pregnant anyway if she thinks you would leave her if "its real"? I think she playing games or is going to denial since losing the baby.

Answer 9

from this it is unable to tell. she could have gotten a false negative on the pregnancy test. Have her go to the doctor and find out for sure. then she can tell you whether or not she's pregnant.

Answer 10

I'd say she wasn't pregnant but than again I have been known to be wrong! Good Luck With the whole situation!